Sex Confession: Wife Says Husband Gets Turned On By Her Past Sex Stories

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dark bedroom"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Some people get turned on by strange things -- this we know. And Abbie* -- a mom of one -- will completely agree with whoever says her husband of six years Craig* is a little odd for wanting to hear all about her past sexual experiences ... in detail. What started one day as sort of a joke became something bigger, something Craig wants her to talk about far too much. It's annoying to her now. She's also worried that she's running out of stories. Yet it's still something he wants to hear all the time. It seems to be the only thing that turns him on. Let's let Abbie explain.

One night Craig and I were talking about exes -- sort of joking about them. And I said something along the lines of well, everything I did in the past led me to you, that includes my experiences and what I learned from them. He started joking asking me where I learned how to give such great blowjobs. We were laughing about it and he said, No really, tell me about when you think you got good at them. When did you first give one? And we ended up really really really talking about it. It got him excited and I bet you can guess what happened next, right? I gave him a blowjob.

It seemed like every week after that he wanted to know more and more. Every last dirty detail. It was hard for me to even recall all the details but I tried. He became so demanding about me telling him things I ended up needed a couple of glasses of wine and some fibbing in order to tell him anything. He'd even request stories by name. Tell me how you fu*ked Joe. Did John go down on you like this? Tell me about what it was like with Martin again. Pass the bottle of wine please!

I created a monster, I thought. So I told Craig this had to stop. And since then our sex life has been lame. He says he's just been preoccupied with work, but then one night I told him a tale and we had awesome sex. So I feel like he needs this now -- this is his ultimate turn-on. It's just so sad for me that while I am really into having sex with my husband, I'm not into re-hashing my past sexual experiences to turn him on anymore.

What do you think of this confessor's secret?

*Names have been changed.

Image via Laurent Calatayud/Flickr

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nonmember avatar mommyof1

Ughhhh. I know EXACTLY what you are dealing with. It honestly sounds like I wrote this article myself. I am pretty sure my significant other remembers my sexual past better than I do. I totally regret ever opening Pandora's Box! Good luck! I hope it finally gets old one day soon, and he can let it go and find a new "fetish."

fleur... fleurdelys3110

It sounds as if he gets off by fantasizing about you being with other men. It seems like he would be interested in swinging, where he could actually watch you perform sex acts with other men. Not sure how you would feel about that though. 

nonmember avatar blh

That's so...odd. most guys like to pretend you've never had sex with anyone before them

tbruc... tbrucemom

This does sound odd.  However, I have to admit I kind of like hearing about my fiance's past relationships.  No overly explicit details involved, it just makes me feel good that he chose me over them. I don't need to hear them to get turned on though.

CAP1015 CAP1015

I'm a guy and I enjoy this as well.  Not to the point it makes my wife feel uncomfortable.  To explain this is a little complicated, but in short for me and the research I've done, it relates to at least two specific things...first. it is the males desire to ensure that his partner is pleased/happy and he recieves joy/excitment from acknowledgement that she recieved sexual pleasure (This sometimes does lead to fantasies of seeing your wife with other partners).  the other thing is that this is the "reverse madonna complex" it allows your husband to see you in a sexaul way but not to crush his image of you as a 'good wife/mother".  I hope that makes some sense.  Hard to try to condense such an issue in the comments.

nonmember avatar Daisy Tulips

I know exactly what you are going thru. I made the mistake of telling my husband about my sexual past. And now that's all he wants to hear. Who I was with, what did I do to him and him to me. It was a complete turn on for him and a complete turn off for me. I'm very uncomfortable with rehashing my past, especially telling my husband about who I with. I can barely remember the details and have had to stretch it just to make him happy. I've told him I don't like talking about it all that. It's in the past and to leave it there. He's brings it up every now and then but not as much. But I know he'll start back up. It fuels his sex drive but diminishes mine.

Rando... Randomlady

A lot of guys are into hearing about your past experiences, I have come to notice that many men are actually into watching their SO's have sex with other men in a swinger type situation or group sex. He may or may not bring it up to you. If you are uncomfortable with it try to tell him and find some common ground. Let him know that while it may be a turn on to him it is a turn off for you, and he wants you to be satisfied too right?

redK8... redK8blueSt8

So basically your husband now only gets sexually turned on by audible porn. It's concerning that he particularly enjoys you as the porn star, as men don't respect porn stars and view them as objects and not real actual women with feelings. That he no longer wants to have sex with you, his wife with feelings and emotional attachments, but with you, the female in a porn situation, I'd recommend counseling because something much deeper is going on here.

nonmember avatar Dave

Sorry most dudes (the overwhelming majority) aren't into that...keep dreamin!! Sounds like (LMS) Liberal Male Syndrome,because only liberal guys would allow themselves to be emmasculated like that...he is probably a little light in the loafers to boot.

nonmember avatar rodney

l think its k to be turned on by this cz it opens up the relationship!!!

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