Internet Weddings Will Suck All the Romance Out of Saying 'I Do'

Say What!? 7

bride groom laptopIf you're getting married anytime soon, you better be web-savvy. If you want to try on bridal shoes, you have to order 10 pairs online, try 'em on at home, and then ship 'em back, because brick and mortar stores don't carry them anymore. If you want cool ideas for centerpieces, you should probably have a Pinterest account. And if you want to find a really unique pair of vintage-inspired earrings, you'll probably want to look no further than Etsy. But what about those actual "I do"s? Shouldn't those take place OFFLINE? Nah, not necessarily!

Apparently, 49 percent of study participants who contributed to recent report by David's Bridal would be cool with Skype-ing their weddingFor real?!

Now, they don't specify if that means broadcasting the wedding via webcam or actually saying their vows to one another from separate computers and locations. But either way, whhhhhyyyyy? Seriously, in this increasingly technologically-dependent world, can't some things remain sacred? Like vowing to spend the rest of your life with someone and sharing that moment with your nearest and dearest?

As much as family and friends can drive you crazy leading up to and on the Big Day, having them present in person is a huge part of actually having a wedding in the first place. And the idea of saying "I do" across a Wi-Fi connection is just plain insane. Unless, of course, dramatic circumstances demand it -- like someone is in the military, confined to a hospital, or is stuck in another country due to Elizabeth Gilbert-esque visa problems. But how often is that the case? More likely, people are considering Skype weddings for the novelty of it or because they think it'll allow them to share with even more people. But what they're sharing will be so cheapened by the mere fact that they're putting it on the Internet.

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At the best weddings I've ever been to, you could feel the tension in the air, the glimmer of the bride's earrings or the tears in her father's eyes. The breeze or the heat of the sun or the glow of the church all made the event all the more amazing. And how does the smashing of the glass at a Jewish wedding ("Mazel tov!") or kissing of the bride work at "Skype wedding"?!

I mean, really now. Let's cut the crazy, back awaaay from the smartphones, power down those laptops, and walk down a real aisle, people! Cuz there may actually be nothing more disgraceful and absurd than this.

What are your thoughts on a Skype wedding? Totally crazy or there may be some merit to it?


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Nelli... NellieAthome

Just because it is not for you does not mean it won't work for others. I am sure my niece would have preferred to have her great-grandmother view the wedding via Skype than miss it all together as she did.....


A wedding is about the two people getting married and their promises to each other - it is not so you, the attendee,  can be entertained

nonmember avatar KEL

Wow...What a presumptuous article and journalist. "As much as family and friends can drive you crazy leading up to and on the Big Day, having them present in person is a huge part of actually having a wedding in the first place." Actually, no it is not. A wedding, and marriage, is between two people (and my opinion) GOD. While it is nice if you can have a gathering of your nearest and dearest on your wedding day, it is not mandatory. Not everyone has a Hallmark family and 'crazy' would have been too cute to describe mine...



Things with my abusive parents was still pretty messy leading up to my wedding, and while they were invited to the wedding prior to us choosing to elope instead, we also learned that my 'crazy' mother had also stolen my identity when I was a child and wracked up $10k in unpaid loans alone. His sister and brother's baby mama were jealous and drama queens, my grandparents were afraid to make the trip, and it would have been like playing pretend with my parents and those aforementioned girls, so having a private, personal wedding/elopement with just us, our friends who doubled as witnesses and photographers, was perfect, lovely, and just what we needed.



The family matters have since improved, but we don't regret eloping. By the way, I think they were referring to Skyping for those who can't be there and I see nothing wrong or less-than-sacred with that. And if a couple wants a screen between them on their big day, that is their business.

nonmember avatar brittany

You need to read this carefully. She's talking about the bride and groom being in separate locations, not just skyping the wedding so loved ones can feel like they're there.

mandy... mandysue88

On flubber robin Williams married his wife via video it was cute.



Freela Freela

As a way to include people who otherwise couldn't be there, why not? I dearly wish my BIL/SIL could have included us in their wedding via Skype... it would have been way better than dh's whole family refusing to speak to us for months because we couldn't afford to fly to India the same week that I was expecting a baby. Especially with 'destination weddings' I can see this being useful.

nonmember avatar KEL

"Now, they don't specify if that means broadcasting the wedding via webcam or actually saying their vows to one another from separate computers and locations. But either way, whhhhhyyyyy?"



I think YOU need to read more carefully, Brittany. She said EITHER way, not just if they are separate and even then, that does not prevent family or friends from being there.

bella... bellacazzate

I'm sure when people started marrying for love instead of a dowry, families everywhere thought, "SOCIAL SUICIDE."


I've missed tons of weddings due to foreign commitments. I'd have liked to have been able to see a few friends and family tie the knot in the wee hours of a European or Asian morning, but alas, things did not work out as such. Skype would be a nice way to do this on a wider and longer scale (Vegas wedding chapels have been doing this for awhile, but those are short and sweet and in a small environment).


If the aim is to broadcast details and to curate a simulacra of perfection to garner likes on social media, then that is a different story all together.

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