"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Carla* loves her husband -- this she wants to stress. The 30-something mom of two also wants to point out that she and her husband Tom* do watch a lot of porn together, probably more than the average person. But lately all Tom wants to watch is gay porn -- men on men. At first Carla was really into it -- they watch plenty of women on women movies, too -- but it seems to have turned into an obsession and the only kind of X-rated flicks he wants to see. It's becoming a turn-off for her and she's a little concerned. Read on to hear more of what she has to say.
I don't want to be worried about this. I feel very secure in my marriage. I don't think my husband is gay. Or bisexual. I also don't think we have a porn watching addiction either though some may say we do. So this is what I don't get: Why does he insist on only watching men on men porn anymore? What changed?
I did ask him about it. He says nothing has changed and that he just prefers the way the men ... ahem ... handle themselves. Okay, I thought. Maybe I have something to learn. I was into it, watching and taking mental notes thinking, All right maybe he wants me to do that like that, but honestly I feel like I already do all the kinds of stuff the men do to each other in gay porn ... except for the fact I don't have a penis and can't do exactly that. Maybe it's just a visual thing? But I'm a woman and it's starting to make me feel like I don't turn him on.
Things were totally fine with us watching our man on woman porn. Sex was great -- no issues there. But in the last few months, whenever it's time for him to choose the adult movie we're going to watch, it's of the gay variety. And I haven't been the one to select the movie in a long, long time. So I'm just not understanding what is going on because even though he says everything is fine, I'm not entirely convinced it is. I do like girl on girl porn and I have no interest in being with a woman, but I also don't insist we watch that type of porn every time.
What would you tell our confessor? Do you think there is an issue her husband isn't telling her about?
*Names have been changed.
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