Even if you and your partner have the world's greatest relationship, odds are, when you brought your perfect, tiny newborn home, shit got real. Sleepless nights and the sound of a crying baby for weeks or months on end are enough to make the most rock-solid of couples get bitchy with one another from time to time. But did you know that some couples actually have gotten divorced over sleeplessness caused by crying babies?
A recent survey of 2,000 parents found that 30 percent of those who had gotten divorced cited lack of sleep due to children as the reason. The Daily Mail also noted that research from the University of California shows that couples who sleep well are likely to "be more polite to each other". An obvious scientific breakthrough.
Simple fact is, being woken up every three hours or so when you're god-awful tired sucks. Big time. But when you decide to have a kid, this is what you get. Babies wake up. And they cry. I don't think any expecting couple has ever been regaled with tales of how the first few months of parenthood are the equivalent to a romantic getaway. No, nothing can prepare you for the whirlwind that is constantly interrupted sleep, but people have a general idea of what they're in for. Nobody said bringing a human into the world was easy.
Getting divorced over a crying baby is nuts. And truth be told, I really don't think waking up during the night is an actual reason couples split. Sure, it's stressful and can bring out the worst in people, but odds are, if you're blaming your crying child for the breakup of your marriage, there were other issues there beforehand.
Having an infant is hard. Really hard. And it isn't easy to always remain poised and have grace under fire. Lord knows I sometimes acted in a way I wasn't proud of when I first became a mom. But try -- try -- to keep in mind that you're all in this together, and that fighting (or divorcing) because you're tired will only make things worse, and your baby will sense it.
And remember: It's just temporary. Babies do eventually sleep through the night.
Did you and your partner fight when your child was first born?
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