Couple Goes on a Date Even Though They're 1,000 Miles Apart

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Two of my really good friends are in the very early stages of a relationship. They work in the same industry and have been friends for years, but finally felt the romantic connection when they found themselves single at the same time. The catch is that they live over a thousand miles apart.

Long distance relationships are more common than ever, as travel has become cheaper and ways to communicate plentiful. Dating sites like eHarmony and Match.com make it possible to even begin a new relationship without having met in person.

Heck, it’s even possible to kinda sorta go on a date together. That’s what my friends did last week, and while they both say it wasn’t the same as being in person, it gave them an opportunity to experience something “together” and bond over it.

Here’s how it worked: He asked her if she’d like to see Verdi’s Rigoletto, which was in theatres for one night only. He found a movie theater near her playing it and bought her ticket online. Afterward they got to discuss on the phone with wine.

I asked them how it went, and they both seemed pretty smitten. She said that she felt like he had gone out of his way to do something nice for her in an effort to get closer, and he said that she was worth the extra effort of a long distance romance.

My girlfriend and I talked about how going on a movie date when you’re getting to know someone isn’t usually something we’d do, because you can’t talk. But when you can’t be together physically, all you do is talk. A movie is the perfect thing “do” with your long distance honey. She said:

In a long distance relationship, you're still going through life, talking about various goings on and saying, "I wish you were here." This was something that offered a little bit of that shared experience.

Relationships require connection, and while nothing beats being face-to-face, today’s digital world makes long distance dating possible. There are challenges (duh), but there are still ways to make each other feel special and to connect.

Of course there is one positive to going on a not-in-person date -- you don’t have to stress over the Bridget Jones dilemma of shapewear versus sexy knickers.

Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? What did you do to try to make it work?


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Shai Epper

Talk to every military spouse on the planet.

EmmaF... EmmaFromEire

Is mommyjacking the new trend shai?


whatever, i think it's nice he went to so much effort, hope it works out well for them!

nonmember avatar KEL

My husband and I met online. We lived a five hour drive apart, so we had been a couple for a month before our first, completely magical first date. We talked every night via Skype, phone, Facebook chat, or AIM, but had spent little more than week of time together, alltogether, before I moved to be with him. That was three months into our relationship, we were engaged officially two and a half months after that, and married four and a half months after that. Distance was hard, even in the short term, but there are so many great resources, communities, and so forth (like LovingFromaDistance.com) to help. We are coming up on our third wedding anniversary and I am still in touch with some of the ladies I met in my LDR community (the aforementioned site), one I would count among my best friends and we have never physically met.



Technology is changing the norm and terms of human relationships. There used to be such stigma to 'online daing' and 'online friendships,' and sometmes there still is. While technology has a dark side, it helps make the world a little smaller and connect people with people and knowledge they might have missed out on on.

nonmember avatar American Expat

The online thing works very well for me, they aren't seeing my butt-ugly face, and treat me as if I were a human being. Alas sooner or later they want to meet in person, and when they see my face, it all comes crashing down around me.

nonmember avatar FM

I've known my best friend for nearly 7 years now & we've been together 5. We are in a LDR and yes it has had many ups & downs. It can work-as long as both of you want to make it work

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