7 Things You Should Consider Before Getting Back Together With Your Ex

The hardest thing about being in a relationship is probably trying to decide if you should end it. The second hardest? Whether you should give it another chance -- especially if you've already broken up. There comes a time in most everyone's relationship when you think about throwing in the towel. And what if you do, but then your significant other wants you back? What if he promises to change? What if he swears up and down, back and forth, that that thing that tore you apart will never, ever happen again? Do you believe him? Do you risk getting your heart broken all over again?

If you're thinking about breathing new life into a dead relationship, here are seven things you should consider first.

Remember that if you're even remotely considering reuniting with an ex who has serious issues like addictions of any kind, or who inflicted physical or emotional abuse on you or your children -- you MUST have outside help via therapy, support groups, etc. Physical abuse, especially, can escalate to the point where you are taking your own life into your hands if you keep going back. And abusers tend to be very good at making empty promises.

Have you ever given an ex a second chance? Did that work out?


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nekoy... nekoyukidoll

never have, never will.  they're my ex for a reason.  Heck my last one cheated on me and was emotionally abusive so I haven't talked to him in a good two years.  

nonmember avatar Michael

Your agenda is too personal; the topic becomes contaminated with your personal venting. Do you really believe that it helps other women grow and heal, or do you just want to rub shoulders and comfort each other?
That’s fine, but in another moment, context, please.
Remember that the dynamics within a relationship such as marriage, involves at least two heads....
It’s a little deeper than you present it.
Thank you.

nonmember avatar Abiah

I been Seen ma ex Boyfriend now, we dated in high school for four years he went to varsity that's where thing got bad. he dated some1 there and they have kids together and i do have a child of my own.so now he want me back and he is so serious about it what should i do take a chance and see where this take us. help

nonmember avatar Elyssa

I've had to look at WHY it was broken off. In the case of emo/verbal abuse I won't make the mistake of going back, espec when he was the type who would openly admit that where appicable someone 'deserves' to be called names. And when I wouldn't be intimate (reasons did not matter) he crassly said he'd be better off hitting on Boy George: yeah. I'm done too.

Juan Barea Gonzalez

My girlfriend of 4 years dropped me the bomb with the “I need space, Its not you its me” song and dance. Needless to say, I was completely heartbroken and destroyed and didn’t know who to turn to or ask for advice because everyone was saying different things and nobody actually knew our relationship. 

Then i found a guy talking about an amazing program that helped him a lot findind the formula to be with her girlfriend again. At that moment I was so depresed and I decided to give a chance to that program and... That's the best thing I could have done!! Now I'm back with my beautyful girlfriend and we're really happy together :)


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I'm sure that it can help you the way it helped me and the guy who told me about it :)

nonmember avatar Joan

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nonmember avatar Nikeya

I still love my Ex. We have been broken up for about a year and yet we still keep in contact , for crying out loud he still kisses me on my cheek and everything. It's just I'm finally able to forget those bad memories of our past relationship and I'm afraid that if we get back together it will be the same. But like I said I do care about him and he cares about me and for now we are still both trying to forget and perfect the future . Give it time to heal is my advice!

Tiffany Washington

When I first broke up with my ex I was sick! I could not believe I messed up something so good!! I said to myself I had to get her back..
This is what I did


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