'Worst Cities to Date' List Reveals Disturbing Answers About Why It's Hard to Find a Good Man

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Single womenThere’s never a dull moment in the science of studying single women. I often find myself thinking something along the lines of “Eff this English degree, I’m going back to school for statistics” because clearly, honey boo boo, that’s where the credibility, cash, and major publisher book deals are. Endangered animals teeter on the brink of eternal extinction, but for some reason, no species is more fascinating and ripe for study than the common Womanus Unmarriedus.

In this latest round of findings, published at The Atlantic, we learn that geography is also a contributing culprit to our ringless status—a welcomed deviation from the routine look-how-suckishly-your-parents-raised-you approach. “The Worst Cities for College-Educated Women Trying to Find a Decent Date” takes a look at the gap between folks 35 and under in 102 U.S. metro areas.

Wow, just a decent date? And the bar slips even lower.

Naturally, I skimmed the article to see what the Washington, D.C./Maryland/Virginia area I call home has to offer by way of gender-based education discrepancies. We ring in at #32, with just a smidge under 26 percent of us ladies more learned than the fellas, which, as far as I’m concerned, isn’t a major component of the complicated social climate that makes dating so difficult in this city. There’s so much ego in the atmosphere sometimes it’s hard to take a breath. That’s the real problem.

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It could be worse, though. Think you’re gonna get yourself a degree and then get yourself a man with a degree in Sarasota, Florida? Think about moving. The gap is a friggin’ chasm down there to the tune of 82 percent, the largest in the country, where there are 18 female college grads for every 10 similarly accomplished guys. That’s pretty stiff competition, even before you factor in the tans and the six-pack abs and what not. (A silent thanks to God that I live inland and away from bikini body pressure.)

The implication of this research, of course, is that every college-educated woman is in search of a college-educated man, when that’s not the case. A degree doesn’t go nearly as far in making a dude a decent date as it does making him possibly smarter, maybe more white collar, and definitely more marketable on the singles scene. But some of us are open to dating non-college grads. I know I am. Makes me no difference whatsoever.

Some of the brightest, most thoughtful and well-versed folks I know either dropped out of school or never went in the first place. I actually have more respect for people who thirst knowledge enough to seek it out on their own rather than having it spoon fed to them by a college professor in a class that makes reading and thinking mandatory. (I am one of those people, by the way.)

It’s all so much to think about, this inundation of why-you’re-still-single information, which is why I choose to stay my focus on shoe sales and The Walking Dead. To drive the point home, though, said Atlantic article had advertising for engagement rings on the page. Way to dangle the carets in front of us.

Does it matter to you if a guy has a degree?


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Angie... AngieHayes

I met my husband in Indiana, I have a college education and he does not. He of course makes more money then me now, because I stay home with the kids. It all works out.

bella... bellacazzate

As a lady with an MA who's thinking about a doctorate, education is pretty important to me. My significant other is in the throes of finishing a full-time MA program--so it matters a bit to him, too. We were talking about this the other night actually. We both thought that it's not the degree that matters--it's the ambition to want to better yourself and strong, personal convictions about what you enjoy doing. Intelligent people are intelligent with or without formal schooling. It's the total dismissal of learning that I couldn't deal with--whether it's believing books are stupid or that you're an expert contractor or real estate agent on your first day out with nothing to left to learn. It's another form of ignorance and I can't get down with that.

nonmember avatar brittany

My husband and I started dating in high school, and then he took a semester off of college to work before he came to the same college as me. He got a fantastic job opportunity though in his junior year and left college for that, while I stayed and finished my degree. He's still working towards his degree by taking online classes, but in the meantime, we're married and I have a degree while he does not. And it doesn't matter a bit to me. Some of the best men I know didn't go to college and decided to focus on their careers instead, and they're doing a lot with their lives, while the boys I met in college graduate and then move back in with their parents because they still don't know what they want to do. A college degree doesn't make the man.

nonmember avatar Audra

I have my Masters's Degree in Nursing Administration. I had my BSN before that. I had several associates before THAT. My husband does HVAC and electrical work. He comes home dirty...and I think he's one of the smartest men I have ever met. Education doesn't always reflect intelligence.

nonmember avatar HS

Degrees don't matter to me. Being financially secure is my main concern. I live in the Hampton Roads area of VA and there's no shortage of military men lacking degrees but are financially secure. I love learning and reading books but don't have the patience to go back to school and take tests. I do have take certification tests for my job though but it takes a lot less time to get than a degree! I have an Associate degree and that's worked out well for me.

CPN322 CPN322

I completely agree with you about DC, Maryland and VA.

nonmember avatar Mia

Number 83. Birmingham-Hoover area. Smack in the middle of Hoover.

ItsJu... ItsJustLunchDC

Our 16 years experience with clients at our dating service in DC /MD/ VA tells us that people with a 4 year degree and over will typically not date anyone with less than a 4 yr degree. If these numbers are true, this may be one of the cause for the DC area reporting the lowest rate of marriage in the country.  We're working on it ;) One date at a time!

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