One way to greatly improve our love as a couples is to work out together. If that sounds insane or impossible to you, consider this: experts say couples who work out together have better "synchronicity, cooperative spirit and shared passion," which leads, overall, to a more satisfying marriage and partnership.
It makes sense.
For many couples, working out separately can become a contentious issue when one spouse gets more workout time than another or one feels the other is NOT working out enough. Oh yes. Seriously. And personally, I agree. Unless there is some kind of physical reason that a person can't exercise, working out ought to be a part of the marriage vows. Call me insane, but a spouse who lets themselves go is not a good one.
Granted, it is easy for me to say. I generally love working out and for a long time, running was a huge part of my life. I ran marathons and more. If anything, in my marriage, working out has been an issue. I can't tell you how angry my husband gets when I even begin to mention yet another marathon to him.
It makes sense. When I am training, I take hours on Sunday morning to run. And run. And run. Once my run is done, my legs are often shot, which means I am out of commission for the full day. I get his problem with it.
But I also know my husband would prefer that to the alternative. For the last few years, he has had trouble getting to the gym and it was bothering him. But it was also bothering me. He was less happy as he gained weight and missed the release of the gym.
As for me, when I skip a workout I am a nightmare to be around. So yeah. Working out matters. For so many reasons. As we age, taking care of ourselves becomes more and more important. It is harder to stay thin, harder to find the time to work out, and, of course, that IS the time we most need it.
People have been left for dumber things than letting themselves go. It's not just about appearance. It's about how we respect ourselves and the time we carve out for our relationships.
So yes. Work out together. But if you can't, at least find the time to work out, period. The couple who works out together stays together, but so does the couple who each workout. Make the time. It might save your marriage.
Do you manage to work out together?
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i agree with micheledo splitting over looks is called vanity, if i were that vain i would have left my hubby after he gained 50lbs since being together for the past 4 years and has made no attempt to loose it. yes i gained weight with my 3 kids but i lost majority of it and im only 10 lbs heavier than when we got together. his weight has never bothered me in the least bit sure theres a little bit of discomfort during sex but otherwise i dont care and i still love him and am as attracted to him as i was when we started
You are lucky to have hrs to run and run and run. God I wish I had hrs throughout the week to regroup.
And you know what? He doesnt need to, and it would be selfish as hell of me to want him to. He works in the oilfields. Pulling hundreds of pounds of wire through conduit, digging trenches, lifting cables that weigh as much as he does, with no assistance. He's constantly walking, squatting, lifting, pulling, digging... to ask him to work out after a 10-12 hr day of that?? I would never.
Also, he could never get the body he's got just from working out. There IS a difference between even the fittest gym body, and someone who uses their body to work. I prefer his lean, rugged, graceful form.
I work out alone. Its the only time I REALLY get to myself daily anyway. I enjoy our seperate time.
We have a gym membership, I usually drop the kids off at the playzone and work out for an hour. My husband rarely goes with me, I wish he would. It is important for me for us to be healthy, that is the most important thing, I could care less if he had a six pack though, just healthy!