"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Jenny and Roger* are 30-somethings who have been married for over 10 years with three kids and haven't lost their spark for each other. These two have more sex toys than they can use in one evening ... and they may have even tried. Jenny even used to sell sex toys at parties and did very well because of her rave reviews and experience knowing which sex toy is the best for whatever you are into. But she's starting to worry. How much is too much? Did her and her husband's sex toy use (abuse?) create a sort of third (fourth, fifth) party in their bedroom? She fears it may be driving a bit of a wedge between their intimacy. I'll let Jenny explain.
Roger and I have gotten very, very adventurous with sex toys over the years. In the interest of being totally honest, and hey, our names have been changed, I was having a bit of a sex issue way back when. In short, I wasn't able to climax and that made me sad. Super sad. It was somewhere after the birth of our first child and I needed more to satisfy me. Roger suggested we try a vibrator and hello! did that work wonders. We kept adding more and more and more toys over the years and we might have sort of become obsessed with our collection and using them. It went from once in a while to every single time we had sex. I was no longer sure if he or I could even have sex without a sex toy of some sort again.
Just typing that out made me really sad. I love Roger. More than any toy. I love Roger's penis. His hands. How we have sex. The bare naked only us kind of sex. And I miss that. I miss it so much. But we may be addicted to sex toys. I want to talk to Roger about that. About having sex just the two of us, but I'm afraid he won't be into it. I'm afraid I won't be into it. I'm afraid we ruined us and we need this endless supply of new sex toys and double-A batteries.
I think we'll try. I'll talk to him about it. We'll try scaling back little by little to get it back to just Roger and me ... and maybe a vibrator thrown in every now and then, just not every time.
Do you and your partner use sex toys a lot? Do you sometimes feel like Jenny and think it's become too much?
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