Valentine's Day Is Just a Big Scam Disguised as Love

Rant 21

You may not know it, but I'm actually a pretty sensitive guy. I can get mushy like the rest of them and really enjoy treating my wife to a romantic evening when I can. But despite that, I have to say this about that little "holiday" coming up this week: Valentine's Day is the biggest crock.

Just another one of those made-up Hallmark holidays, V-Day regularly spreads far more pain than love. First, there are all the people out there who aren't married, dating, or in a serious relationship. Or worse, there are those who just broke up with someone or are going through a rough divorce. Valentine's Day is just a way of the calendar giving those folks the middle finger.

But that's not what I really dislike about this bogus holiday. I love my wife. I love her each and every day. More with each passing 24 hours. So who the hell are the greeting card companies and the chocolate makers and the florists and the jewelry people (I need a scapegoat here, so they all get my wrath) to tell me WHEN and HOW I should express my love for her?

What, so I can ignore my wife for 364 days of the year and treat her like utter garbage, but then buy her candy and roses on February 14 and all is forgiven? Or maybe I forgot that I'm supposed to say those three special words to her and I need to be reminded once every year. Puhleeze.

Thankfully, my wife is on the same page as me. Valentine's Day is just another day. If I don't celebrate it, does that mean that I don't love my wife? Of course not. If I don't celebrate it, does it mean I won't tell her I love her? Definitely not. One thing has nothing to do with the other.

I buy my wife gifts all the time. I gift her songs from iTunes. Call her nauseatingly cute animal names. Text her little affectionate notes. Tell her I love her dozens of times a day. I do it all and I do it often. I don't save it up for one specific day.

Now, when we were first dating and even a few years into our marriage, I'd buy my wife cards, presents, chocolates, and even take her to dinner on Valentine's Day. I sent her a dozen long-stemmed roses one year when she was a teacher. Her students loved that one.

I get the allure, the appeal of buying into the whole hearts and chocolate lovefest. But the entire premise is just ridiculous. I know so many women who get so upset on Valentine's Day because they aren't dating anyone and they feel awful and useless for some crazy reason. And then there are the guys who are in relationships but they just started dating, so they're clueless about what to do.

Overall, it's just one hot mess. I for one won't be partaking in any Valentine's Day festivities this year. Well, except for maybe eating a chocolate heart or two. But that's only for the chocolate, not the love.

Do you buy into the whole Valentine's Day hype?


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Flori... Floridamom96

I totally agree with you. I despise the whole Vaelntine's day crap.

nonmember avatar blue

I do agree. My husband and I can't stand Valentine's Day, and have never "celebrated."

rhps2000 rhps2000

Well, you're married now. You show your love all the time. I get that. I've git it like that too. Still a present would be nice. Justin Timberlake's idea of a gift is a good one ... d*ck in the box. :P

nonmember avatar Meg

I don't like valentines day either but for a rather different reason. I think it is rather sweet that couples have a holiday even if it is just a Hallmark holiday. If you are going to exclude holidays based on some one being hurt or left out there would be no Mother's or Father's Day or even Christmas. I don't like valentines day because I find it creepy and awkward seeing children celebrate a holiday based on romantic love.

the4m... the4mutts

I disagree about feeling like the calendar is giving single people the finger. What about christmas, & birthdays, and all other holiday/special event days? Single people with little/no family feel left out on those days too.



But the rest, I completely agree. Valentines day is crap. Its some stupid "holiday" that companies commercalized, because they saw that they could profit from some catholic "saint" who married people in secret a billion years ago.

If youre not catholic, there's no reason to acknowledge the holiday at all IMO.

I dont care that people choose to, its just something we think is stupid.

Evaly... EvalynCarnate

I love this article, not just because I agree with the sentiment, but this man sounds like a lovely husband. Keep it up mister! :D

Karma... KarmaGrant

My husband and I agree completely.

Histo... HistoryMamaX3

The adults in this house ignore valentine's day as well... but we spend quite a bit of time helping the kids make cards to send to our family members. Everything is all about what you make it- for us, just another reason to mail kid art to the grandparents. :-)

nonmember avatar Gretta

Waa waa waa.... You take yourself way too seriously. It's not that big of a deal. Why not have fun with it and cut the melodrama?

tuffy... tuffymama

VDay is just another amateur night (like NYE) for restaurant people. I won't see DH until the next morning, because he will be entertaining couples in the restaurant until about eleven, and then the mopey singles in the bar until one. I will be fast asleep. We usually have an automatic day off almost a week later, in a natural lull in restaurant business after VDay. We typically have a steak dinner at home or out that day, chocolate something for dessert. This year, my sister is watching the munchkin, so we may even have a date! Woo!

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