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Dumping Your Date Over Bad Teeth Is a Surefire Way to Die Alone

by Maressa Brown on February 6, 2013 at 7:22 PM

Bad dateIt's never been easy to be single, but now, with online dating, smartphones, texting being a predominant form of communication, Facebook, and all the other challenges life in 2013 presents, it's even harder. Now add in the fact that singles seem to have increasingly specific "must-have" qualities for potential mates.

Perhaps in a pre-Valentine's Day effort to make singles feel even more screwed, Match.com has released findings from their national survey of almost 5,500 unattached adults over 21. And while a "nice smile" maybe or "good sense of humor" used to be enough to get by, seems like there are quite a few more surprising qualities you've gotta have to score a date these days ...

Like having good teeth! 71 percent of women and 58 percent of men said they judged a potential partner on ... teeth. Huh ... I guess that's one that most of us have subconsciously cared about for years, but it's sorta wild that all of a sudden it's a big deal. Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, a research professor at Rutgers University and a Match.com adviser who helped develop the survey, explains:

From a Darwinian perspective, good teeth are a real indication of your health -- how much you drink, smoke, what you're eating.

And 'course we all care about that, because date shmate -- what we're really looking for is someone to reproduce with! 

Similarly, we don't want to be with someone illiterate! 55 percent of men and 69 percent of women want a mate who uses proper grammar. (Sweet, a sign we're not totally headed down the Idiocracy path as a society just yet?!)

Meanwhile, though, it seems like singles these days have pretty low tolerance for inexperience. 42 percent would not date a virginWeird! I would think that might fall under the category of "non-issue"/"if I like you enough, we'll figure it out." Also, who is actually making that known in their online dating profile or early on in the dating game? Strange.

To each their own, but something the survey didn't seem to cover is how having too many must-haves and prerequisites -- as Patti Stanger puts it, "non-negotiables" -- is the fast track to shooting yourself in the foot as a singleton. Not to mention being totally superficial and worrying only about what's going on at the surface level, obvy. We're never going to find a real human being who fits a laundry list of traits. Maybe he or she will have a few, along with some flaws we can tolerate. In the end, that's what it's all about if you actually want to win the dating game.

What do you make of this survey? What are/were your "non-negotiables"?



Filed Under: sex, dating, turn-ons, turn-offs

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  • tuffy...
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    tuffymama

    February 6, 2013 at 7:44 PM
    I would never date a man with bad teeth. It's honestly such a turnoff, that it sometimes makes me ill. I don't know why. I tried to be a go with the flow and accept all things kind of a girl, but it just isn't me. I have a lot of flaws, but I have perfect teeth that never needed braces. My husbands have all had nice teeth without braces. My kids have gorgeous teeth. It's just important to me.

    Clear diction, enunciation, good grammar and a sense of humor have always been important. A JOB is at the too of the list. Not being lazy, racist, sexist, ageist, weightist douchebag is up there, too. One thing I can say about my exes is, no matter how maddening they were to live with, they weren't horrible people.
  • Carme...
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    Carmen8706

    February 6, 2013 at 7:45 PM

    I've seen some pretty disgusting teeth on some guys.  I would never be able to kiss them.  It's just a sign of how much they fail at personal hygiene and cleanliness.


  • lobus
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    lobus

    February 6, 2013 at 8:09 PM
    Haha tuffymama, husbands. Good for you. I have perfectly white straight teeth. My husband doesnt. And I dont care. Ive dated guys with good teeth who were assholes and guys with bad teeth who were nice sweet and intelligent. And they all flossed and brushed their teeth. Some people have genetically bad teeth no matter how well they take care of them. Some people didnt have money for braces growing up like my husband (singular.) But hes a good dad a good husband and a good person and Id rather have those qualities than someone else with perfect teeth. Theyre going to rot and fall out as you age anyway, will you love your spouse any less when that time comes?....
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    blue

    February 6, 2013 at 8:10 PM
    "My husbands..." No wonder.
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    blue

    February 6, 2013 at 8:10 PM
    Crooked teeth don't bother me, at all. Bad hygiene does. The survey outcome doesn't specify what the responders mean by being turned off. Did they mean crooked teeth? Or, did they mean bad breath and an unhealthy mouth? I think required perfectly straight teeth is unbelievably vain, and it's no wonder people complain they can't find anyone worth it.
  • tuffy...
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    tuffymama

    February 6, 2013 at 8:55 PM
    Um, I've been pretty honest about my marital past. Some things you just can't help. Judge all you like, but it says more about you than it could ever say about me.

    Carry on.
  • Coles...
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    Coles_mom

    February 6, 2013 at 8:57 PM
    I'm nearly 40 and the generation I grew up in the majority of kids had braces and fairly straight teeth, but it didn't seem a big deal straight or crooked. I have three kids and a handful of nieces and nephews and the ballgame is VERY different these days! It's not about braces as a teenager, you have to have insanely white veneer teeth to get anywhere- at least where I live. Every single cheerleader on my squad has them. I will let my kid have those done when it's time because I don't want them getting picked on and bullied.
  • Coles...
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    Coles_mom

    February 6, 2013 at 8:58 PM
    ^^ on my NEICE'S squad. I'm not a cheerleader, obviously.
  • Coles...
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    Coles_mom

    February 6, 2013 at 8:59 PM
    ^^omg...I'm going to kill my phone...NIECE!!!!
  • nekoy...
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    nekoyukidoll

    February 6, 2013 at 9:04 PM

    These things really don't bug me in terms of what I look for in a mate.  I think bad teeth shouldn't determine what a person is on the inside.  Heck the English have bad teeth but some of them are the most well mannered people ever.  The judging people by their grammar irks me to no end.  News flash: grammar has no bearing on a person's personality.  it's like saying "I met a great guy!  Sure he's a drug addict. woman beater whose murdered puppies as a kid but he's got impeccable grammar so he's a catch!"  And i think the virgin thing is just a matter of morals so it's not a deal breaker to me.  I really have nothing specific I look for in a mate just that he respect me and my beliefs and treat me well.


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