Dumping Your Date Over Bad Teeth Is a Surefire Way to Die Alone

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Bad dateIt's never been easy to be single, but now, with online dating, smartphones, texting being a predominant form of communication, Facebook, and all the other challenges life in 2013 presents, it's even harder. Now add in the fact that singles seem to have increasingly specific "must-have" qualities for potential mates.

Perhaps in a pre-Valentine's Day effort to make singles feel even more screwed, Match.com has released findings from their national survey of almost 5,500 unattached adults over 21. And while a "nice smile" maybe or "good sense of humor" used to be enough to get by, seems like there are quite a few more surprising qualities you've gotta have to score a date these days ...

Like having good teeth! 71 percent of women and 58 percent of men said they judged a potential partner on ... teeth. Huh ... I guess that's one that most of us have subconsciously cared about for years, but it's sorta wild that all of a sudden it's a big deal. Biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, a research professor at Rutgers University and a Match.com adviser who helped develop the survey, explains:

From a Darwinian perspective, good teeth are a real indication of your health -- how much you drink, smoke, what you're eating.

And 'course we all care about that, because date shmate -- what we're really looking for is someone to reproduce with! 

Similarly, we don't want to be with someone illiterate! 55 percent of men and 69 percent of women want a mate who uses proper grammar. (Sweet, a sign we're not totally headed down the Idiocracy path as a society just yet?!)

Meanwhile, though, it seems like singles these days have pretty low tolerance for inexperience. 42 percent would not date a virginWeird! I would think that might fall under the category of "non-issue"/"if I like you enough, we'll figure it out." Also, who is actually making that known in their online dating profile or early on in the dating game? Strange.

To each their own, but something the survey didn't seem to cover is how having too many must-haves and prerequisites -- as Patti Stanger puts it, "non-negotiables" -- is the fast track to shooting yourself in the foot as a singleton. Not to mention being totally superficial and worrying only about what's going on at the surface level, obvy. We're never going to find a real human being who fits a laundry list of traits. Maybe he or she will have a few, along with some flaws we can tolerate. In the end, that's what it's all about if you actually want to win the dating game.

What do you make of this survey? What are/were your "non-negotiables"?

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lobus lobus

Am i supposed to keep track of all of your posts? I dont know you and i dont know your past. But the first thing i think when you say husbands and then say you cant stand something so superficial as not perfect teeth, makes me think youre not a great judge of character because your vanity gets in the way. No wonder so many people are getting divorced these days when they gamble their and their childrens' lives on a set of teeth.

missusmc missusmc

I highly doubt anyone on this page has divorced over bad teeth.  Presumably, if someone in a relationship has bad teeth during a marriage, he or she would have had bad teeth during courtship, and the relationship would not have evolved to a marriage.  For some people, bad teeth is a turnoff.  That doesn't make them a bad person.  Others are turned off by bad hygiene, bad health habits, hair in weird places, etc.  we are all attracted to and turned off by different things.  It doesn't make someone superficial to have physical preferences.  It just makes us all human.

Cel7777 Cel7777

Wow, just because a person says like they like nice teeth doesn't mean they got divorced for superificial reasons. Everyone has physicial traits that they prefer, some even non-negotiable. "Looks" aren't that important, but attraction is, and there's nothing wrong with having physicial traits that are attractive (or unattractive) to you.

kelti... kelticmom

Teeth are absolutely non negotiable for me. A little crooked, fine. But yellow, missing, rotted, gold crowns.....nope. To me, bad dental hygiene shows a lack of responsibility. And can lead to heart disease. Fortunately for me,(though not so much for him, poor baby) my husband's teeth are mostly implants because of an accident in basic training. They will always be strong, white and cavity free! Lol

lobus lobus

I understand preferences. I have preferences. Would I prefer a husband with perfect teeth? Sure. Im sure hed prefer a wife with bigger boobs or longer hair or whatever. Theres a difference between preference and deal breakers. For someone to not be able to look past something fixable like teeth even though all the other qualities are there IS vain and superficial and if things like that are most important to you, youre probably looking at the wrong things when looking for the right partner.

blunt... bluntcakes

My ex boyfriend really needed braces but his hygiene was excellent and honestly I never really noticed his teeth were messed up for some reason, I guess I must have really liked him

nonmember avatar American Expat

LOL well I've seen many of her posts, and tuffymom is so superficial and vain, if I happened to ever come across her in the street she'd probably punch me in the face because I'm so so so very ugly. I've run into her type always, demand absolute perfection, hate bitterly those who are cursed to walk the earth in ugliness lol. She's just typical of many people in this country.

the4m... the4mutts

Bad teeth are near the top of my NoNo list. Along with recent drug use, obesity, being rude to wait staff, proudly admits that they dont like to read, owning a cat, and not liking snakes.

And I'm not going to die alone, according to my s/o. Imagine that.

cleo_... cleo_is_mine

Wait a second. Are we talking about crocked bad teeth or rotten teeth. Cause I think there's a big difference between what everybody considers "bad" teeth.

the4m... the4mutts

Cleo- I am personally talking about unhygenic teeth. My s/o has a few missing teeth in the back from previous injuries, and his teeth will never be "white" due to genetics. But he doesnt have stank breath, he brushes regularly, and sees a dentist.

I cant speak for everyone, but as long as they're not looking like one of those crazy luminescent fish way down in the ocean, and as long as theyre hygenic, then we're all good!

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