10 Signs You're Being WAY Too Picky

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We get it. You want the perfect relationship with the perfect guy and the perfect marriage with the 2.5 perfect children and a white picket fence. Who can blame you for wanting the best for yourself?

The problem is that there is no "perfection" in the world - at least, not the world we live in. Instead, we make do, muddle along, and do the best we can.

So when you're dating and mating, don't be too picky - but don't be too permissive either! Here are some signs that you might have impossible standards.

1) You refuse to go on a date with a guy who has facial hair in his online profile picture because he MIGHT look too scuzzy.

2) You refuse to date anyone who cannot properly punctuate a sentence. Sure, it's annoying, but really, who doesn't love extra commas?

3) You refuse to consider a guy's offer to buy you a drink because you "hate that pickup line."

4) You dump a guy because you loathe the way his friends act in public - even though he's very well behaved.

5) You refuse to consider dating anyone who is vegan, vegetarian, or eats gluten-free because it "limits the places you can eat."

6) You break up with a great guy because he loves the band Rush.

7) You break up with a dude because he sees a therapist, even though you know that perfectly normal people see therapists, too.

8) You refuse to date a guy who has cats because you figure he's a Mama's boy.

9) You assume ALL men are Mama's boys.

10) You refuse a date with a guy whose last name you don't like - just in case you get married. Don't want to be saddled with a bad last name!

What are some other signs you're being too picky when it comes to dating? Have you ever been guilty of this?

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the4m... the4mutts

I wont date a guy with cats, because i HATE cats. Cant stand them. And I wont date a man who's scared of snakes, because i have 3 of them and wll not deal with the whining when i pull them out to cuddle with in bed.

the4m... the4mutts

Luckilly, it doesnt matter, because i'm taken.

Blues... Blueshark77

No cats for me either, but because I'm super allergic. No tobacco users either. My guy is a big Rush fan and if we decide to tie the knot I'll keep my last name cause I like mine better, but those would never be deal breakers. My list of must haves was fairly small-atheist or agnostic, sense of humor, fairly intelligent, decent hygiene. I found him, except he's very intelligent. Bonus! Girls who have the insanely long, ridiculously detailed lists of what they want in a man will be looking for love forever. Think of all the good guys who might have made a fantastic partner, but were overlooked because they didn't fit a list.

Bunny Wilson

I dont think that being too picky because if you could just break up with (or reject) a man because of any of these reasons alone, then he clearly wasnt the right man for you.

nonmember avatar A Guy

Talk about being shallow. If you listen to guys talk about the same, at least there's some substance to why they won't date Suzie or Sally.

You've got to be kidding, right?

nonmember avatar Samantha

The only things i truely care about are that he is good to me, faithful, respectful, caring, and that hes even better to my daughter. I dont prefer facial hair.. I do tend to overlook guys with too much, but if my partner now decided to grow some.. Well he just wouldnt be kissed as often. I dont go for obese men, partially bc i like bean poles, and partially bc i want a man thats going to be around for a LONG time. Theres just a few small things, but i dont have a list.

jalaz77 jalaz77

I never went on another date with a guy cause he didn't wash his hands after using a restroom. Hygiene means so much to me. Smoking was an absolute turn off, still is. To some that may be picky. Some of these can really be hard to deal with. The friends are his friends but when it gets borderline embarrassing, then yes it's deal breaker. No I would not date a vegan cause he has his reasons for being a vegan I have mine for not being one, that can be tough one day if the relationship grows. Thank god I don't have to deal with dating anymore.

Berta Jean

this was gar bage



#5 is a deal breaker for me NO vegans or vegetarians. No jail time and preferably no kids or an ex wife that goes with them. I just don't think there is a problem being "picky",you spend more time picking a purse or a car so why wouldn't you be particular about who you want to settle down with?

Alc0106 Alc0106

Wow, I totally LOLed at this!  Why are people not seeing the humor!?  My guess is that you have been married to your best friend for a long time, in which case- that's amazing, Congrats!- or you aren't getting asked out on enough dates, in which case, put yourself out there! :)    I think this is hilarious and kind of true to an extent.  When you date people that annoy you from the very beginning, it's very rare that you will have a long and happy relationship.  Typically, you have a short and annoying relationship with a guy that you can't get to leave you alone.  haha

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