10 Signs You're Being WAY Too Picky

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We get it. You want the perfect relationship with the perfect guy and the perfect marriage with the 2.5 perfect children and a white picket fence. Who can blame you for wanting the best for yourself?

The problem is that there is no "perfection" in the world - at least, not the world we live in. Instead, we make do, muddle along, and do the best we can.

So when you're dating and mating, don't be too picky - but don't be too permissive either! Here are some signs that you might have impossible standards.

1) You refuse to go on a date with a guy who has facial hair in his online profile picture because he MIGHT look too scuzzy.

2) You refuse to date anyone who cannot properly punctuate a sentence. Sure, it's annoying, but really, who doesn't love extra commas?

3) You refuse to consider a guy's offer to buy you a drink because you "hate that pickup line."

4) You dump a guy because you loathe the way his friends act in public - even though he's very well behaved.

5) You refuse to consider dating anyone who is vegan, vegetarian, or eats gluten-free because it "limits the places you can eat."

6) You break up with a great guy because he loves the band Rush.

7) You break up with a dude because he sees a therapist, even though you know that perfectly normal people see therapists, too.

8) You refuse to date a guy who has cats because you figure he's a Mama's boy.

9) You assume ALL men are Mama's boys.

10) You refuse a date with a guy whose last name you don't like - just in case you get married. Don't want to be saddled with a bad last name!

What are some other signs you're being too picky when it comes to dating? Have you ever been guilty of this?

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rhps2000 rhps2000

Friend of mine wouldn't date a guy who listened to self-improvement tapes (yes, this was a while back! Lol). But I thought that was a goid sign for him. It showed he had ambition. She was into losers and bad boys anyway. And he was better off. :)

MrsYo... MrsYoung1287

Lucky for me i've married my perfect match. We like the same everything pretty much and most importantly of all the same fucked up sense of humor lol. And yeah I was picky before I met my hubby, I had a type. I stopped talking to this one guy because I jokeingly said he sounded dorky on his voicemail and he got his panties in bunch over it.

tbruc... tbrucemom

What's annoying or a dealbreaker for one person is no big deal for another.  My deal breakers have to do with character (and has to be a non-smoker), my mother died at an early age due to smoking. I'm assuming the things listed in this article are joking but I've heard women actually use some of the same types of reasons and that's why they're probably alone.

nonmember avatar Sum Yung Gai

Years ago, I just got tired of the bad attitudes of American women and stopped asking them on dates. Met a beautiful--both inside and outside--Ukrainian woman, we've been married 11 years, and life's been great. Sure, like "Captain & Tennille", who are still happily married today, we had to get the communication established (they talked about this a few years back in an interview). We needed to be willing to adjust to each other. Any couple needs to do that, and we did. The rewards are worth it, no question.

Tanst... Tanstaafl2

11.  There are multiple men you dumped or refused to date who look a WHOLE lot better in hindsight now that they're with someone else and no longer available to you.

12.  You absolutely can't refrain from correcting him when he's incorrect, even on trivial items that have absolutely no importance.

Donald Abernathy

I have a female friend that has the deal breaker of the fact that we are friends, or that she has been friends of my family for about thirty years. I say, who better to be in a relationship with, other than a true friend?

nonmember avatar shelley

jesus, picky picky picky! IMHO, i'm not fussed about my ideal partner, as long as he is'nt an arrogant a**hat or treats women as disposable kleenex or thinks nothing other than trading in his partner for a younger hotter model after a certain mileage, that's all i care about. in fact as opposed to being a pre packaged , pre programmed stereotype, my ideal man has to have a spark of life and is comfortable with being himself. is that too much to ask?

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