8 Things Every Couple Should Do for a Successful Marriage

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Marriage. Unless your name happens to be Cinderella, there's a super slim chance you and your hubby are going to live happily ever after. Divorce rates are higher than ever, with something like 11 out of every 10 marriages ending in splitsville. (Note: I may be slightly off in my math.)

No marriage is perfect. But you know what? It doesn't have to be! It just needs to be successful so you and your spouse can live a long and happy life together.

Nobody enters a marriage thinking it could one day end. Romance has a way of blinding the future. But reality eventually sets in. Couples get into routines. Money and communication issues inevitably worm their way into your relationship. Before you know it, you're on a roller-coaster you never even signed up for.

That's not to say marriage can't be wonderful. It certainly can. And with just a little bit of effort, you can help make it last by following these 8 things every couple should do for a successful marriage.

1. Never Go to Bed Angry - This is a great rule to follow. No matter how upset you are, don't let your emotions fester. Talk it out. Even if you don't agree, at least agree to disagree before going to bed for the night. Besides, sleeping on the couch is really bad for your back.

2. Think Small - All the little things you do make a huge difference. That could be setting up the coffee pot every morning for your husband, or having your hubby gas up your car when it's close to empty. See, size does matter.

3. Be Impulsive - The longer you're married, the more set in your routine you'll be. It's just human nature. So "plan" on being impulsive. Out of the blue, do something sweet for your spouse. Gift a song via iTunes. Mail a Hallmark card. Leave a note on the pillow.

4. Compromise - Guys? Suck it up. Go watch a chick flick with your wife. In return, ladies, don't give your guy grief next time he's watching football. Basically, respect each other's interests and do a lot of give and take. The exception, of course, being Twilight. No man should ever have to suffer through that.

5. Be Your Own Person - Probably one of the most important things to remember is that besides being a happily married couple, you are an individual. It's okay (and healthy!) to do your own thing, whether it's exercising, a girls' night out, or playing poker with the guys. Enjoy your own time and be happy your spouse is enjoying his or hers too. Just be sure they're not enjoying it too much ...

6. Make Time - The older you get, the crazier and busier you get -- from working overtime to driving the kids all over the place. When life's at its craziest, that's when you really need to take a breath and set up some time together. Whether it's a real date night out on the town or just snuggling up on the couch with a good movie, make the effort to make the time.

7. Laugh More - Seriously, laughter really is the best medicine. Crack a joke. Shove a pie in your face. Use more whoopee cushions. Whatever it takes, just relax and enjoy life.

8. Be Thankful - Don't take your spouse for granted. So what if he's made dinner every night since you've been married. You should still thank him. If it tastes good, that is.

How do you keep your marriage healthy?


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ashjo85 ashjo85

Good advice, all of them. :-) And I can't even make MYSELF sit through Twilight. Hubby lucked out there!

redK8... redK8blueSt8

Absolutely agree with every single one of those!  Even the Twilight bit. Seriously, worst book to movie EVER!!

handy... handy0318

Forget divorce, any man forced to sit through Twilight has grounds for justifiable homicide... ;-) 


Very solid advice. Especially the one about making time.  There just comes a time in life, with us it began when the kids got older, that time is just jam packed... Making time to just be with each other is really important.

.LoVe... .LoVeMyBuG.

Hate to admit it but I like Twilight... the movies could have definitely been better but I liked the story line. I do wish they would not have casted Kristen Stuart, I try really hard to ignore her bad acting and weird mouth movements so that I can enjoy the movies but it's hard. I think they could have done a much better job with the whole series but oh well. 

Carme... Carmen8706

Haha, number 4 was awesome, but maybe you can compromise on that too. Watch it with rifftrax (and if you don't know what I mean, look it up. It's freakin hilarious).

jessi... jessicasmom1

how to loose a guy in 10 days! 

Kzint... KzintiFeline

 


I guess comments have limits, so I'm going to have to do this in multiple posts.


1. Never Go to Bed Angry - This is a great rule to follow. No matter how upset you are, don't let your emotions fester. Talk it out. Even if you don't agree, at least agree to disagree before going to bed for the night. Besides, sleeping on the couch is really bad for your back. - Until recently, I traveled and lot and hubby slept on the sofa when I was out of town because it is more comfortable for him.  I think, though, that the advice to agree to disagree or agree to talk about it in the morning is good.


2. Think Small - All the little things you do make a huge difference. That could be setting up the coffee pot every morning for your husband, or having your hubby gas up your car when it's close to empty. See, size does matter. - This is SO important, and it is SO important to recognize those small things and show your gratitude for them.  I think that part is later on in the list.


3. Be Impulsive - The longer you're married, the more set in your routine you'll be. It's just human nature. So "plan" on being impulsive. Out of the blue, do something sweet for your spouse. Gift a song via iTunes. Mail a Hallmark card. Leave a note on the pillow. - I almost said that this kind of goes hand in hand with the previous advice, but it *does* stand on its own, because the small things above could be everyday things, but this is in addition to those things.

Kzint... KzintiFeline

 


4. Compromise - Guys? Suck it up. Go watch a chick flick with your wife. In return, ladies, don't give your guy grief next time he's watching football. Basically, respect each other's interests and do a lot of give and take. The exception, of course, being Twilight. No man should ever have to suffer through that. - My hubby is a guys guy, except for love of sports, so he sucks it up and watches more football with me than he ever wanted to (and pays exorbitant amounts of money to get us tickets to the home games of my favorite NFL team).  I go shooting with him and we both watch movies that the other person enjoys more.  


 

Kzint... KzintiFeline

 


5. Be Your Own Person - Probably one of the most important things to remember is that besides being a happily married couple, you are an individual. It's okay (and healthy!) to do your own thing, whether it's exercising, a girls' night out, or playing poker with the guys. Enjoy your own time and be happy your spouse is enjoying his or hers too. Just be sure they're not enjoying it too much ... - Agreed completely.  While we love to do things together, I go out with some of my friends and he goes out with some of his friends separately.  He even goes out to lunch or drinks occasionally with his former "work wife."  We both love poker, so we do that with friends together.  Another thing about being individuals is that you don't have to always do things the same way.  My husband and I go to different dentists, we use different shampoos, we have different ways of doing laundry.  As I told him about the laundry thing many years ago, "you do it your way and I'll do it mine - neither has to be the 'right' way."  He is more particular about how clothes are handled between the washer and dryer, so I *do* handle certain of his items the specific way he prefers, but don't do that with the rest of the clothes.  


 


 

Kzint... KzintiFeline

 


6. Make Time - The older you get, the crazier and busier you get -- from working overtime to driving the kids all over the place. When life's at its craziest, that's when you really need to take a breath and set up some time together. Whether it's a real date night out on the town or just snuggling up on the couch with a good movie, make the effort to make the time. - This is very true, and if things get too crazy, scheduling sex is a good idea, too.  It sounds strange, but when you actually schedule it, you tend to prioritize it.


7. Laugh More - Seriously, laughter really is the best medicine. Crack a joke. Shove a pie in your face. Use more whoopee cushions. Whatever it takes, just relax and enjoy life. - Absolutely!  Laughing together makes you closer to one another.  My hubby makes me laugh every day and I so appreciate it!


 

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