You know the pickings are slim when even Katie Couric can't get a date. Or rather, she can get them, but they don't do anything for her. Katie opens up in the latest issue of More magazine about dating -- and it doesn't sound like her fame or fortune is helping her in the game of love. She's dealing with the same crappy dates most singlets are! Says Katie: "I've had dates where we didn't click. I once went out with a heart transplant surgeon who talked about valves the whole night."
What, Katie, you don't like valves??!! Hey, we've all been there when we were single. But we could all make it so much easier on ourselves -- and our dates -- if we just followed some simple rules, like avoiding the following.
Here are eight ways you can kill a first date.
Yammering on and on. As with Katie's boring heart surgeon, I think both men and women are susceptible to prattling on about themselves too much and forgetting to ask their date anything. Men often go on about themselves in order to impress a date (only it ends up doing the opposite), and women do it when they're nervous. Don't forget to ask your date questions -- and then listen to the responses.
Expecting sex right away. This is mostly a guy thing, but I'm hearing a lot more complaints from single gals that guys expect sex at the end of the first date. Guys, guys, if you want a guaranteed romp in the hay, then hire a prostitute (though you didn't hear it from me). Seriously, you're not in an episode of Sex and the City or Girls. And, who knows, if you're actually able to wait another date or two, you might get lucky anyway!
Talking about marriage. The main complaint I hear from guys is that women will start talking marriage on the first date. Woahhhh, ladies. Sloooow it down a tad. I do have a friend who told every first date that she wanted to get married and that if he didn't want that too, this was their last date. After a year of that, she finally found a guy who didn't bolt immediately at this speech -- and they're married!
Being cheap. Sorry guys, but if we still have to be the ones to give birth, you still have to be the one to pay for the first date. I don't care if the woman offers to pay half. Decline. Unless you are absolutely certain you don't want a second date. And, no, you don't have to take us anywhere expensive. Coffee or one drink will do. But you pay. Get over it.
Talking about your ex. Just ... don't. I don't care if your date asks. Say something vague like, "We just weren't right for each other," and say no more. If she stole your truck and your dog and burned your house down, you can write a song about it later. Same for you, ladies.
Asking for a second date. This is my personal pet peeve, but I don't care how fabulously a date is going, I don't think you should ask for a second during the first. There's just simply no easy way to say "no" with the asker staring you in the face.
Making the date too long. So you meet for coffee which then turns into a drink. Fine. And then the drink turns into dinner. Fine. But I draw the line with the guy who just can't let the date end. "And now let's go dancing!" "And let's go see a movie!" "And, hey, the sun is coming up! Let's go see it!" This kind of thing might work for a 20-something on vacation, but not for us working gals who need to get up in the morning. Plus, let's save something for later, 'kay?
Saying you'll call if you won't. By the end of the date you probably have a fairly good idea if you want to see this person again. If you don't (or you are uncertain), then DON'T say, "Call you tomorrow" or "Hope to see you again soon" or "Let's try that Italian place next time" UNLESS YOU MEAN IT. Guys, women are baffled as to why you say things like this and then disappear. Stop. It.
What do you think ruins a first date?
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I create a special savings account
I put a little away at a time
I cut corners until I can afford it
Save? Who has money to save?
I plan to put it on my credit card and love the benefits of the reward program