5 White Lies It's OK to Tell Your Husband Once in a While

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lying in a marriageIn a marriage, it's never OK to lie, right? We are supposed to be honest ALL the time. But let’s face it, there are some things we don’t want to tell him. And that’s OK. There are many things he's just better off not knowing.

For instance, has he ever asked you if something makes him look fat? If yes, then trust me, even if the answer IS yes, it's NEVER yes. Never. Always no. Repeat after me.

What about the times he wants sex and you just don’t? Do you ever say how tired you are or that you feel a little sick or that you had a long day even when none of it is true? If so, then you have lied. Admit it. We all do. Here are five lies it’s OK to tell your man once in a while:

1.) No, honey, he wasn't that cute: Picture this. You just left Les Miserables starring the adorable (handsome, sexy, large, strong) Hugh Jackman and your man is feeling a little insecure. If this were you, would you REALLY want him telling you that Amanda Seyfried is so beautiful, especially when you are rocking the top knot and J.Crew Saturday pants? I think not. He would lie to you. You should do the same.

2.) I have a headache: It’s a cliché for a reason. There are some nights sex just sounds really unappealing. But he doesn't need to hear that. All he needs to know is that he’s not getting laid for a good reason. So give him one. Even if it’s a lie.

3.) You look great: Men get insecure, too. They want to know how their shoes look with those jeans or if their button-down is too tight. Sometimes it's good to be honest. But sometimes they just want to hear they look good. Even if they don’t.

4.) I didn't notice you put on any weight at all!: Yes. We did. But there is a time and place for honesty, and when he is feeling low or bad about himself is NOT that time.

5.) It was on sale: While generally I am not one to condone lying about money and, in general, you shouldn't, men do get all bent out of shape about things they don’t get. Like, yes, some women pay $200 jeans. This shouldn't be that shocking. But for some men it is. If you tell them things are on sale, sometimes they relax. Sometimes they don’t. But, you know, that’s a discussion for another time.

Do you ever lie to your spouse?


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Teri Johnston

I used #1 and #5 when I was married. What they can look but we can't? And #5 oh please my husband use to spend $70 or $80+ on new tennis shoes for himself a couple times a year but I had to lie about spending $15 on a pair of shoes for our 2 and 5 yr old. Most of the women I know always skim a few dollars off of the things they buy for themselves or their kids. I have found that men are rally weird about it... it is ok for them to spend full price on something... but god forbid you do.

Alexn... AlexnAlysmommy

I don't buy most of these womans comments that they  have never ever lied once to their husbands. Even if they don't make a habit out of it Im sure they have at some point lied about something. I personally try not to but it's happened. Ive faked a headache (he usually knows tho) and I've made up other white lies... usually not about the stuff on this list but other things. I don't think anyone should lie about money... unless maybe your well off and it doesnt really matter but for w/e reason it would bother him. We tell each other what actors/actresses we think are hot, even had a whole Rachel/Ross list lol it's all in good fun. I think 3 and 4 are kinda the same thing but I don't have to lie about that. Altho one time he had a skin infection on his nose and he was really self conscious about it and asked if it looked that bad and I said no... what was I gonna do tell him he looked like the elephant man (he didn't but you get my point) Sometimes a little lie makes the relationship better. If you can make someone feel better why not.

Teri Johnston

Oh an all the poster who say they have and don't or will never lie to their spouse are lying. Really you never told them while you were dating that you were staying in for the night and really you went out with girlfriend. NOBODY is completely honest... even to a bf/gf/so or spouse. you are lying to yourself if you say you never lie.

Amber Nerling

no disaree with this ....

nonmember avatar Amy Snider-Kola

Seriously, be honest. My husband and I laugh about our extra weight together, when he looks good I tell him. He knows I think Chris Hemsworth is sexy, and it doesn't matter. We both know I could never have a chance with that man, that its human to look. We are secure in our relationship and don't need nor want to lie. Just remember, little lies quickly turn into big lie which equal a failed marriage.

jessi... jessicasmom1

pfft ... honesty is the best virtue

CPN322 CPN322

I don't really think it is acceptable to lie to your spouse. That just wasn't how I was raised. I am also a lover of truthful, honest people. I am very honest, and a bit blunt sometimes, because that is what I want from other people. If I ask him how I look and he thinks the outfit is off or whatever, I want him to tell me. I ask him because I honestly want to know, not because I want smoke blown up my butt. I feel I'd be doing him a huge disservice if I let him out of the house thinking he looked awesome and he didn't(then again, he looks to be for styling advice). Now, saying a meal he made is awesome when really it wasn't so hot, yea, that techincally is a lie and one that I would tell but in general I do not like to lie to him.

CPN322 CPN322

And I should have added, I have told white lies, but I never felt it was ok.

Teri Johnston - I can honestly say I have never done that.  Are women that do that afraid of their signifcant others? Why would one lie and go out with their friend behind their partners back unless they were cheating?? You are right though, everyone has lied at least one to their significant other.

nonmember avatar Sarah

honeydewdid, you got rid of your dog - a member of your family - without discussing it with your husband? Then LIED about it?? You are scum, and your husband deserves better. Dogs are not furniture that you can just give away because you're frustrated. Truly pathetic.

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