5 White Lies It's OK to Tell Your Husband Once in a While

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lying in a marriageIn a marriage, it's never OK to lie, right? We are supposed to be honest ALL the time. But let’s face it, there are some things we don’t want to tell him. And that’s OK. There are many things he's just better off not knowing.

For instance, has he ever asked you if something makes him look fat? If yes, then trust me, even if the answer IS yes, it's NEVER yes. Never. Always no. Repeat after me.

What about the times he wants sex and you just don’t? Do you ever say how tired you are or that you feel a little sick or that you had a long day even when none of it is true? If so, then you have lied. Admit it. We all do. Here are five lies it’s OK to tell your man once in a while:

1.) No, honey, he wasn't that cute: Picture this. You just left Les Miserables starring the adorable (handsome, sexy, large, strong) Hugh Jackman and your man is feeling a little insecure. If this were you, would you REALLY want him telling you that Amanda Seyfried is so beautiful, especially when you are rocking the top knot and J.Crew Saturday pants? I think not. He would lie to you. You should do the same.

2.) I have a headache: It’s a cliché for a reason. There are some nights sex just sounds really unappealing. But he doesn't need to hear that. All he needs to know is that he’s not getting laid for a good reason. So give him one. Even if it’s a lie.

3.) You look great: Men get insecure, too. They want to know how their shoes look with those jeans or if their button-down is too tight. Sometimes it's good to be honest. But sometimes they just want to hear they look good. Even if they don’t.

4.) I didn't notice you put on any weight at all!: Yes. We did. But there is a time and place for honesty, and when he is feeling low or bad about himself is NOT that time.

5.) It was on sale: While generally I am not one to condone lying about money and, in general, you shouldn't, men do get all bent out of shape about things they don’t get. Like, yes, some women pay $200 jeans. This shouldn't be that shocking. But for some men it is. If you tell them things are on sale, sometimes they relax. Sometimes they don’t. But, you know, that’s a discussion for another time.

Do you ever lie to your spouse?


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Bunny Wilson

I do not lie to my husband...ever. And if I was going to, I wouldnt waste it on one of these lame pointless lies! LOL

mama_... mama_carmel

There is no need to lie to my husband. We are honest with each other. That''s probably what makes our love so strong :)

nonmember avatar saydee

Lying is lying and I bet anything that if you lie about these 5 things, you lie about more things too. I'm not saying that I haven't taken off the price tags from new jeans before he sees them, but if he notices and asks, I tell him. And no, I don't tell him I think some actors are hot, but I also wouldn't say they aren't if he asks because its more hurtful to lie to him about it then it is to just not mention it. Plus, if I were putting on weight or looking like a slob, I would want him to tell me, so I do the same for him. And as for the headache- Its a terrible lie, and I don't see whats wrong with saying "no, sorry babe."

Water... Water_geM

No one should spend more than 40 dollars on jeans.

Lacey Friis

About the jeans:  I am not in an income bracket to enjoy that level, but those who think they are the same are very mistaken.  Have you ever tried on a $200 pair of jeans?  They= an amazing ass...seriously.  They are worlds better.    If I was rich, I would have expensive jeans and a personal masseuse. Until then...my Gap jeans  from ten years ago and a back scratcher will have to do.   As for the other lies...I don't think they've ever come up...I'm never asked about his weight...

Salem... SalemWitchChild

No I have never lied to DH, especially about money. If I'm going to teach my children to be good moral citizens then I lead by example. NO lies at all!

Lauri... Lauriemom

Nope. I don't do this at all. My husband is always honest with me about my appearance (kind sure but honest) so I know if he says sonething looks ok it does. If he says "You might want to try the other blouse" or whatever, I know THAT is a good idea. I do not lie about money ever either as if he lied to me I'd be very angry

MrsWa... MrsWalton83

this is probably one of the stupidest posts I have seen in awhile! There is no reason to find ways to lie to your husband! ESP ABOUT MONEY!!!!!! I handle all the finances and when he asks questions about things I tell him the truth. No point in lying...it will only end in a big mess. Have seen it happen with friends. On the weight thing, I dont have to lie to him, he knows if he has gained weight and usually well before I notice. He carries his weight really well so unless he gained 30lbs I wouldnt notice the diff of a few pounds. The celeb thing, he knows which ones I think are attractive and I know the ones he likes, but guess what... We are all human and look! No reason to get bent out of shape and hurt by it...sex thing, I will come out and tell him if I am too tired or not feeling up to it. No reason to lie, life happens, if you start out with "lil lies" you will easily become complacent in your relationship and lying will become 2nd nature! Not a good life to live in my personal opinion.  

sassb... sassbott_5000

This is utter garbage and shows a profound lack of maturity.

tauru... taurusmom88

I don't say those white lies. I'm attracted to my husband, and he knows it. I make him well aware. But if he asks me about his outfit or whatever, I tell him what I actually think. We have different styles. As for sex, if I'm not in the mood he knows it. Doesn't even have to try. Lol. So no lying here. And lying about money is just really effing stupid and disrespectful. If you are ashamed to spend however much you just spent, take it back and get you money back. Don't be an asshole and lie about it.

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