Now that it's out that Bethenny Frankel has filed for divorce, it's time to start talking about it. The divorce has been all over the tabloids, but she's been pretty quiet about it up until now. On Wednesday Bethenny appeared on Ellen to talk about the divorce. And before she even opened her mouth, you could see her getting emotional. She told Ellen she doesn't really care about the tabloids. It's more that, "I feel like a bit of a disappointment to all of you, and I feel like a failure."
Ellen will have none of that! "You are not!" she blurts out almost like a reflex. It's what any of us would say. It's definitely what I thought -- no, Bethenny, you're not a failure! But I've thought about it a little more, and I've realized Bethenny doesn't need to hear that she's not a failure. It's actually healthy for her to admit she feels that way.
Bethenny went on to talk about the responsibility she feels as a public person to be open and honest about her divorce -- even the bad parts. "I can't only be on reality TV and show everything when it's just the fairy tale and not take my hits when they come." She admits that the future is scary. She says she hadn't really thought about being a role model. But seeing her fans' response to her divorce (the supportive, the bad, and the ugly) has made her realize that what she does now matters. She needs to deal with her divorce with grace and dignity because people are watching her.
It's so like Bethenny to turn this into an opportunity -- and I say that affectionately. Right now, thousands of other people who are paying attention are also going through a divorce (me!). And we know that you can't be Superwoman and just power through it in a state of denial, even if you think you're trying to stay positive. You do have to acknowledge those dark, sad feelings so you can truly move on.
So yeah, Bethenny feels like a failure. It's normal to feel that way in the middle of a divorce. And it's amazing how saying that out loud suddenly makes you feel a whole lot better.
Do you think it's helpful to other people for Bethenny to talk about her divorce?
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