"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Sometimes situations present themselves and you need to act on it right away or else it becomes a secret you feel you can never tell. That's what happened to Joslyn*, a 30-something married mom of two when she met her friend Mary's* husband John*. Joslyn and Mary met at yoga class and became fast friends. They'd do yoga and often go out for lunch after. They had been doing this for months and months and never met each other's husbands or kids. But then Mary had a birthday party and invited Joslyn and her family. And that's when things got weird. I'll hand it over to Joslyn to explain.
I had no idea Mary's John was the John I hooked up with in college. And by hooked up with I mean that we were hot and heavy on and off for all four years. After graduation John moved to another state for an internship and we completely lost touch. So I didn't have sex with my friend's husband when he was her husband. But we totally had sex before he even knew her, before I even met my husband. Ages ago. Still, I had no idea this woman who I became such great friends with at yoga class was married to my ex-love!
They don't share the same last name so I didn't even have that to tip me off. And it's not like he has an uncommon name. You can imagine my shock and slick horror when arriving at their home for Mary's party to have John greet me, my husband, and two extremely cranky at the time kids. When our eyes met, they widened. He knew exactly who I was and I may have had a flashback. It was freaky, but we both quickly did the intros and Mary came over smiling eager to meet my family.
As I mentioned, my kids were super cranky that day. They were both in one of those moods where they were getting annoyed by every little thing the other one did. So we didn't get to stay very long -- maybe an hour, but it felt like 300 hours. There was only one time when John and I sort of acknowledged our past. It was near the guacamole and he said, "Strange, huh?" And I just said, "Yeah."
That party was three months ago and I still haven't said anything to Mary. I feel really weird about it. I should have told her right away. Or do I have to? She keeps saying how we should come over for dinner or even go out just the four of us and get sitters. I really, really, really like Mary. I just fear what this would do to our friendship.
I did tell my husband, who was completely cool with the whole situation. He thinks I should just tell her. But how do I start that convo? "Hi Mary, I had sex with your husband about 15 years ago"?
What do you think of this confession? Should Joslyn tell Mary?
*Names have been changed.
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