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David Letterman Is Proof Affairs Can Make Your Marriage Stronger

by Ericka Sóuter on January 4, 2013 at 7:33 PM

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There was a time when people never thought of uttering "sex scandal" and the name David Letterman in the same sentence. It's not as though the late night host was squeaky clean, he just didn't seem like that kind of guy ... that is, until he was. Sitting down with Oprah Winfrey recently for an episode of Oprah's Next Chapter, he opens about the incident and makes a shocking admission. According to Letterman, the whole sordid affair may have actually made his marriage stronger. Sounds crazy right? It's not and here's why.

Just six months after he married Regina Lasko, his longtime girlfriend and mother of his son Harry, the cheating scandal made headlines. He came clean to his wife and his fans on Late Night With David Letterman, telling everyone that he had an affair with a woman who worked for him. But there was more to the story, which Oprah managed to get out of the legendary funnyman. Since admitting to the affair, "I feel better about myself and my relationship with my wife has never been better," he said during the interview.

He added, “I want to be the person I always thought I was and probably was pretending I was. I hurt a lot of people... I’m not looking to blame anybody. I’m looking to find out why I behaved the way I behaved.”

It was a regrettable decision, to be sure, but the entire embarrassing mess actually made his life better in a lot of ways. It's a hard concept for a lot of people to accept, but entirely possible. He was not himself when he had the affair -- or at least not the person he wanted and needed to be. Sometimes when you are faced with losing something so significant, it makes you realize what you really want and really need in your life. There is no doubt that he loved Regina and the life they had built with one another. Making that massive mistake and having it exposed put that life at risk. It seems since, he has worked hard to be the spouse she deserves.

I certainly don't think Letterman is alone in his realization. Lot of people who get caught in similar indiscretions pray for that second chance. Nearly losing everything you truly cherish can make a relationship stronger because you actually appreciate it on a profound, new level. At that point, you are never more sure of what you have and how terrible your life would be without it.

Do you buy this? Can an affair can make a relationship stronger?

Filed Under: cheating, commitment, celebs

Comments

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  • tuffy...
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    tuffymama

    January 4, 2013 at 7:36 PM
    Gross. To each his own, I suppose, but... GROSS.
  • W
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    W

    January 4, 2013 at 7:43 PM
    NO!
  • xiolxuo
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    xiolxuo

    January 4, 2013 at 8:08 PM
    Once a cheater always a cheater. Scum of the earth.
  • Momof...
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    Momof3inTx164

    January 4, 2013 at 8:30 PM

    If you work at it not only can you survive an affair it can make your marriage stronger. People are way to quick to divorce these days because 18 months of marriage counseling isn't worth the rest of your and your families life.  It's easier to change your relationship status on FB, divorce, vilify the guilty party, up root kids, and fight over money.   There are very few divorces that turn out friendly, the Bruce-Demi/Kimora-Russell thing is rare! So he may be gross but I bet he is a better man today than he would have been if she left him and his marriage and family is too. 


  • Mommy...
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    MommyBoha

    January 4, 2013 at 8:38 PM
    Nope. Cheating is an absolute dealbreaker.
  • Reepi...
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    Reepicheep.CSL

    January 4, 2013 at 8:40 PM

    He obviously didn't love his wife, if he loved her he would never have considered having sex with someone else.
    He was an egotistical person who chose to have sex with someone, not caring or thinking about his family until it all threatened to come out. Only then did he confess and admit to his affair.
    You claim 'he wasn't himself' when he cheated. What a cop out! He was himself, he made the decision not someone else! 


  • Pinkmani
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    Pinkmani

    January 4, 2013 at 9:09 PM

    Nope, adultery is a dirty sin. I'm thinking she's just keeping her mouth shut.


  • sand008
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    sand008

    January 4, 2013 at 9:13 PM
    I can understand why. It also depends on the situation. I'm sure he analyzed himself, and his marriage.
  • xiolxuo
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    xiolxuo

    January 4, 2013 at 9:28 PM
    I fully agree with reepicheep! I have the very same opinion.
  • Emily
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    Emily

    January 4, 2013 at 9:54 PM
    I love how for David Letterman it's 'made his relationship stronger' and for Kristen Stewart it's 'Rob should dump her ass'
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