David Letterman Is Proof Affairs Can Make Your Marriage Stronger
There was a time when people never thought of uttering "sex scandal" and the name David Letterman in the same sentence. It's not as though the late night host was squeaky clean, he just didn't seem like that kind of guy ... that is, until he was. Sitting down with Oprah Winfrey recently for an episode of Oprah's Next Chapter, he opens about the incident and makes a shocking admission. According to Letterman, the whole sordid affair may have actually made his marriage stronger. Sounds crazy right? It's not and here's why.
Just six months after he married Regina Lasko, his longtime girlfriend and mother of his son Harry, the cheating scandal made headlines. He came clean to his wife and his fans on Late Night With David Letterman, telling everyone that he had an affair with a woman who worked for him. But there was more to the story, which Oprah managed to get out of the legendary funnyman. Since admitting to the affair, "I feel better about myself and my relationship with my wife has never been better," he said during the interview.
He added, “I want to be the person I always thought I was and probably was pretending I was. I hurt a lot of people... I’m not looking to blame anybody. I’m looking to find out why I behaved the way I behaved.”
It was a regrettable decision, to be sure, but the entire embarrassing mess actually made his life better in a lot of ways. It's a hard concept for a lot of people to accept, but entirely possible. He was not himself when he had the affair -- or at least not the person he wanted and needed to be. Sometimes when you are faced with losing something so significant, it makes you realize what you really want and really need in your life. There is no doubt that he loved Regina and the life they had built with one another. Making that massive mistake and having it exposed put that life at risk. It seems since, he has worked hard to be the spouse she deserves.
I certainly don't think Letterman is alone in his realization. Lot of people who get caught in similar indiscretions pray for that second chance. Nearly losing everything you truly cherish can make a relationship stronger because you actually appreciate it on a profound, new level. At that point, you are never more sure of what you have and how terrible your life would be without it.
Do you buy this? Can an affair can make a relationship stronger?