My dad always used to say, "If work was supposed to be fun, they wouldn't call it work." Granted, he also was fond of saying, "It's only illegal if you're caught." My point is, that for the most part, people hate going to work.
Enter telecommuting. Suddenly work just got kinda fun. Now you can join in on that conference call while still in your jammy jams. You can blast ABBA all you want without fear of offending your co-workers. You can even have a little "afternoon delight" with the wifey with no one the wiser!
Yes, telecommuting has some serious advantages. But it also can come with a price. It may end up being the worst thing you can do for your marriage.
I've been a writer for as long as I can remember. I'd do some freelance writing here or there, but about five years ago, I quit my 9-to-5 editing job and gave full-time freelancing a shot.
That meant my new office was the guest room. Or rather, the guest room was now my office.
I spent a few years working from home and I can tell you firsthand it definitely has its benefits. But it also has plenty of negatives. I loved seeing my kids come home from preschool. Loved hearing them giggle and pitter-patter down the hallway. And unless you're stepping over hundreds of toys, you just can't beat that commute!
But the bad part of working from home is that it poses the risk of upsetting the work/life balance. If you don't set very strict and clear boundaries from the get-go, your work and personal lives are going to quickly start merging.
Even though you're doing your job, the fact that you're home will make it seem less important. You might start finding yourself doing regular chores around the house, rather than your own work. It won't even be a conscious decision at first. You're home, your wife comes in with groceries, so you'll instinctively take a few minutes to go help her. And it just grows from there.
When the line between both worlds gets blurred, that's when you can start having some real issues. If you don't help out, you feel guilty. If you do help out, you might get annoyed because you really should be working.
There's also the flipside of things. Look at it from your wife's point of view. She may love having you around at first, but chances are, at some point, she'd love the house to herself. She may have to work extra hard to keep the kids quiet on playdates. She may even feel like she's walking on eggshells around you so as not to disturb you.
All of this is to say that over time, these things can start building up. So can the resentment. Toss in a relationship where you're around your wife pretty much 24/7 now and things may start to crack a bit.
That's not to say you can't resolve things. You just need to realize that working at home requires a heckuva lot of ... well, extra work.
Would you want your husband to work from home?
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