Hmmm, if gossip is to be believed, Modern Family actress Sofia Vergara got into one helluva knock-down drag-out fight with her fiance, Nick Loeb, right after ringing in the new year at a club in Miami. Rumor has it that some sap mistakenly bumped into Sofia, causing her to spill her drink, and it was irate bad-mannered Nick to the "rescue." He apparently yelled at the dude to apologize to Sofia, while Sofia yelled at Nick to knock it off and stop making a scene. Eventually Nick was reportedly kicked out of the club while Sofia hollered, "F*ck you!" at him. Gee, I would have liked to have seen this whole thing, wouldn't you?
New Year's Eve and other holidays are prime time for couple's bickering. Whether it's Christmas, Thanksgiving, or Valentine's Day, there always seems to be the potential for a big-time blowup. I wonder why that is?
Here are 5 reasons why couples always seem to fight on holidays.
Expectations. Holidays ratchet up a pair's expectation level. Whether it's the expectation that hubby will get off his ass and help out in the kitchen, or that wifey will put out even after she's spent all day entertaining guests, each person's higher-than-average expectations puts added pressure on the day. So hubs didn't reserve a table at the most romantic restaurant in town for Valentine's? So he didn't get you jewelry for Christmas? Dashed expectations is one way to ruin the holiday. Solution: Try to keep your expectations similar to what they would be on a regular day.
Pressure. Holidays mean a lot of pressure. Visiting friends and relatives or trips combined with holiday crowds and prices and juggling your normal routine means major stress. And who will you take your stress out on? Your significant other, of course. Solution: Try to do what you can only realistically do. No sense planning a trip to Paris with three kids if it's going to make you tear your hair out.
Booze. Let's face it, the holidays usually mean more partying and alcohol. And booze loosens the tongue and inhibitions. While this can potentially mean a night of "Let's enact scenes from Fifty Shades of Grey," it can also mean "Let me tell you everything I hate about you that I've never told you before." Solution: Keep your drinking to a minimum if you have a tendency to be a mean drunk.
Different party tolerance. One New Year's Eve, I was sick, but didn't want to insist that my boyfriend stay in, so I decided I would go out, but asked him if we could leave the party right after midnight. He agreed. But once he got a few drinks in him and began having fun with friends, he wanted to continue to party all night long. Normally a sensitive guy, his New Year's Eve fervor turned him into a douchebag who completely forgot I was suffering with a sore throat and stuffed up nose. That NYE was one of the the biggest fights we ever had. Solution: Try to agree on how late you'll be out and how much you'll party or if one person can leave early, etc.
Family. Family is more likely to make their presence known during holidays, especially the months between Thanksgiving and New Year's Eve. If your relatives drive you nuts, there's the danger you might take this out on your SO. They might also pry and ask questions about your "future" together that make you uncomfortable -- or even get you resenting that you don't know what your future IS exactly. Solution: Nothing wrong with separate holidays at different family homes; or simply avoid family members who you think might set you off.
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Going to baseball games
Riding bike rides in the nice weather
Playing outside after work/school
Going for walks outside