13 Things Couples Rush Into Way Too Soon

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couple sitting togetherThe word on the street is that the adorable Emma Stone and her man Andrew Garfield have adopted a 2-year-old Golden Retriever. They named him Ren. Totally sweet, right? But fast forward to the day these two break up and there's a custody battle over where Ren is going to live. Not that I want these two to break up ... but they're young and Hollywood and these things happen. Stone and Garfield have only been dating a year, which is sort of a lifetime in Tinseltown, but it's really not that long. You figure you have the beginning months where you are still unsure if you're even exclusive, then you have about the six month mark where you know you are, and this is just six months longer than that.

Perhaps they're rushing into things. We all do it. Doesn't mean we should. To try to avoid bad feelings when the breakup does happen, let's review the things couples rush into way too soon.

  1. Buying a pet together. Emma and Andrew bought a dog, but this goes for cats, birds, hamsters, snakes, lizards, spiders, and even fish. Hey, some people get really attached to fish. A split could make that sitch painful.
  2. Saying "I love you." Make sure you mean it. Really, really mean it. Once you say it, there's no going back to not saying it. And then if you don't say it the other person will wonder where they stand and ... complications arise.
  3. Sleeping over every single night. If your love lasts there will be plenty of time for togetherness every night. Before that, enjoy your time alone. In your own bed. Without anyone to steal the covers.
  4. Mixing your record collection. You will be fighting over who really owns Led Zeppelin's Houses of the Holy if the split happens.
  5. Getting matching tattoos. That's forever stuff.
  6. Having sex without protection. This is forever stuff, too. Kids are forever and so are some STDs.
  7. Spilling gossip about your friends. If you tell your guy the dirt on your BFF and then you break up, he's got the dirt on your BFF and will use it to drive a rift between you so he can then sleep with her. Avoid that to avoid that.
  8. Moving in together. See #3.
  9. Buying a house together. See #8 and times it by a million and add fights about money.
  10. Sharing a bank account. More money is more problems, and so is marrying your monies before you are married. Some marrieds don't even share a bank account.
  11. Sharing passwords. Changing all your passwords after a breakup is annoying. Trust me on that one. Plus you don't want your ex knowing the password to your Facebook account and only realizing it when it too late and he posts a photo of you naked on it as revenge.
  12. Meeting the parents. Mom and dad don't need to know the guy or girl you are getting it on with. Spare them.
  13. Meeting the kids. More importantly spare your kids meeting someone who is a newbie/maybe.

 What would you add to the list?

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linzemae linzemae

My husband and I moved in together within a year of dating. Here we are 8 years later...

whate... whatever82

I think this list is sort of lame.  All couples progress at their own speeds.  However, the dog my husband and I share is one that was purchased with his ex-girlfriend towards the end of their relationship.  He got custody of the dog, and well, the rest is history.

kirstina kirstina

I agree with #13 the most.

jalaz77 jalaz77

I agree with 13. That should be sloooow, I am married but have seen too many heartaches from a few single people (mainly kids) who bring men and women in and out of kids' lives.

AliNo... AliNoelle

Now that I'm dating again I absolutely agree with #13. They're gonna have to be pretty damn special to meet my boyos...

jessa... jessasmamma

I completely agree with #13. My ex tried insisting that our daughter meet his new girlfriend this Christmas. His first Christmas with her since we divorced, and he wants to share it with a girl who he's been dating for 2 months. REALLY?! Then the truth came out - yes, they've been dating for 2 months. But he's also still dating other people... and he thinks that our daughter should meet one of them? If I could've smacked him upside the head through the phone, I probably would have. 

People need to understand that when it comes to children, you ONLY introduce them if you are getting serious. I am talking, possibly marriage but this relationship can go no further until you've met my child(ren) serious. 

When I asked my ex WHY he wants to introduce our daughter to his GF, his response was - she's nice and she doesn't yell at him..... okayyyyy.... I was looking more for a "she's really important to me, i love her, i see this going somewhere, etc" type of response. Or anywhere along those lines. Just like he wouldn't want me introducing our daughter to every guy who asks me out, you would think he would have the same rules for himself. But nope. 

Heath... Heather.Rose

I didnt have to worry about any of these :) My dh and I knew each other before we got together so he knew my son and I knew his kids. I already had my cat and he didnt want any more pets. While we did spend every night together it was not much of a change. We were neighbors and spent alot of time together anyway. His kids practically lived with me. And we have been together 2 years now (married since July) and are just now looking at buying a house.

nonmember avatar A Guy

14. Sex. I'm amazed at how loose a society we have become. If you're "sleeping" with the guy/ girl before you know their favorite color, what pets they had as a kid or their parents names and jobs, then (IMHO) you're a slut, guy or girl.

It's not a religious aspect, but one of priority and maturity.

Go ahead and flame me.

Wish2Be Wish2Be

We did a lot of that too soon I think, but I dont regret it one bit.... we lived in the moment...and this Feb. we will be celebrating 13 years together. :)

Dayija Dayija

oh crap! I've done most of these within the first five months of my relationship....Even got married...five years later, still married. Whew! That was a close one LOL! We're okay, we're okay but I guess it makes a lot of sense

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