Men Are More Attracted to Women Who Look Like Their Mothers

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i love mom shirtThe oedipus complex in part suggests that men are sexually attracted to their mothers. Of course this is not something we want to think about, but a boy finding his mom beautiful is a lovely thing. He should think she's beautiful -- she gave him life, nurtured him, all that good mama stuff mom's do. That's where it should end. According to a recent study out of Finland, however, men are more likely to be attracted to women who look like their mothers. They want to be with women who look just like mom. Are men really so visually simple?

If this is true, I need to panic because I don't look anything like my mother-in-law. She has light hair and is a Southern sweetheart. My hair is dark and I'm from New York. There are basically no similarities. Does this mean my marriage is doomed? Is this the secret reason behind the high rates of divorce?!

Okay, okay it's a study. A study that only looked at 70 couples. I'm taking this to the source. My source. My husband.
"Do I look like your mom?" I ask hubs.
Husband shakes head furiously no.
"Not at all? Nothing similar?"
He shakes head no again. "Why?"
I explain and he suggests we go over to her photo on the wall -- the one of her in her 20s -- to look more closely.
"Hmmm. Similar noses. Similar chin. Mouth too," he says.
Phew! Our marriage isn't doomed after all! I do look like his mom (sort of)! He still finds me attractive because I look like her. Ew. This suddenly went to a place I didn't want it to go.
Luckily this same doesn't apply to women. I don't want to play this game with my husband and dad.
Do you look anything like your husband/boyfriend's mother? What do you think of this study?
Image via jamiesrabbits/Flickr

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nonmember avatar Ashley

The only physical similarity we have is naturally red hair.. but he's told me more than once that I remind him of good memories with his mom when he was a kid. Little things like the way I make pancakes, and my biscuits and gravy... And things I've said to him when he was upset to calm him down. I am flattered though, that some of the things I do remind him of her. They have a good relationship, and she is clearly a great mother. To be compared to such a wonderful woman makes me feel nice. Especially because I know that he recognizes how much I love him when those little moments happen. Obviously, he loves me a different way than his mother, though... Just because the similarities are there doesn't make it weird.. I think being attracted to someone who reminds you of the most loving person you've ever had in your life is a good thing.

prinz... prinzesa_edith

i do see similarities with me and his mom. lol!


jessa... jessasmamma

I look more like my ex husbands mom than he did. Not identical, but our coloring. His new girlfriend looks WAY too much like her for anyone's comfort. Even his friends have commented on it being slightly creepy. There's a difference between looking similar, and looking like the same person 30 years apart. It weirds me out, but hey - whatever floats his boat, right? As long as that boat stays far far away from me, I don't care what he does or who he is with.


People mistake my mother in law for being my mother all of the time.

bubba258 bubba258

Well my husband is Asian and I'm white so......:)

jalaz77 jalaz77

OMG no. My hubby would laugh at that. My MIL is short, round, fake red hair, gawdy ass style, wears glitter or butterfly sweatshirts and crocs all the time. I was shocked when I met his mom cause they look nothing alike or act nothing alike. He actually said he looks fur the opposite of his mom. He is good to her don't get me wrong but she lacks serious drive or ambition.

Shandi80 Shandi80

I knew this's also true in most cases that women choose mates with similar personalities as their fathers. Obviously there are a lot of variables but for the most part, it makes sense. Same with this "study".

pupuk... pupukeawahine

My husband's ex-girlfriends were always large, muscular athletic women.  Some were even taller than him.  He never went out with small, petite women, and he preferred blonds.  I am short and small with really dark hair, just like his Italian mama.  Yes, in many cases I think guys end up with women who look like their mothers.

UgtaB... UgtaBkdnMe

No, I'm sure some do but none I know.

Melis... Melissa1508

I actually look more like my husband's mother than my own. People always think we're mother and daughter when we're out together.

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