It takes a certain kind of maturity to go on vacation with your ex-husband and your kids -- and your ex-husband's new honey, who happens to be a much younger model. So I tip my hat to Baby Phat designer and former America's Next Top Model judge Kimora Lee Simmons, who took a holiday vacay not only with her ex, hip hop mogul Russell Simmons, and their two young children, BUT also his new love, a 25-year-old German model. Whew. I don't know if I could do that, ladies, could you?
Kimora and Russell were actually on the island where they married in 1998, St. Bart's. But they got divorced 10 years later. I guess they must have worked through whatever issues they had that led them to divorce and wanted to put on a united front for their kids -- or maybe Kimora just wanted to watch her ex smooch his new girlfriend? Nah. Probably not.
Perhaps it's all water under the bridge for these two -- after all, Kimora dated actor Djimon Hounsou for five years and they have a son together, named Kenzo. But they broke up recently. Russell's new girlfriend is 30 years younger than he is -- but that's no surprise. Russell was 35 and Kimora was 19 when they began dating. Yep, he likes 'em young.
I think it's great to do this kind of all-inclusive vacation either for the kids or maybe just because you still genuinely like your ex. (I remember Hugh Grant vacationing with ex-gf Elizabeth Hurley and her new husband.) But I don't think it's something you should force on yourself if you're really not ready.
A relative of mine once took her child and went on vacation with her baby daddy. They did it for the kid, who was sick, and wanting to both be with her during that difficult time. However, they fought so much on the trip that I often wondered if it would have been better if they'd gone on separate trips with her. This kind of thing really depends on your relationship and how you feel. Even if you don't actively fight, kids can sense if you're down. So if the sight of your ex with his new love is going to depress you, or even just being around your ex is going to press all your buttons, I don't think it's worth it. What's the fun in that for either you or the children?
I think the key here is to be honest with yourself about where your relationship with your ex stands -- as well as separate hotel rooms. Or maybe separate hotels entirely!
Hopefully it all worked out for Kimora, Russell, and the kids. They certainly looked like they were having fun.
Would you vacation with your ex and his new flame?
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Going to baseball games
Riding bike rides in the nice weather
Playing outside after work/school
Going for walks outside