Skipping Your Spouse’s Christmas Gift Now Is a Good Way to Hate Each Other Later

Love & Learn 26

gifts under Christmas treeQuick! Want to spend Christmas pissed off at your significant other and hating yourself for it? Agree to a no-present Christmas, and you'll be right on track!

Never heard of such a thing? Count yourself lucky. It's a trend I'm noticing a lot more this year -- maybe because of the recession, maybe because I'm just paying more attention. Couples talk out the holidays and decide that they are going to buy bupkis for one another. Not a stocking stuffer. Not a trinket. NOTHING.

If you are one of those couples, can I offer a word or two? Abort mission! Abort, I say!

Ladies and germs, I have been there. It sounds like a nice, simple way to head off the headache that is trying to find the perfect gift for someone you love. And don't even get me started on the money savings. I'm one of those women who prefers the term frugal over tight-fisted ... for a reason.

But there is nothing more depressing than waking up on Christmas morning, wandering out to the Christmas tree, and not finding a single thing with your name on it.

Some will call the sentiment you feel materialism. I'll dig deeper. Because, let's be honest. Gifts under the tree don't have to cost money, at least not much. Your favorite candy bar is not going to break the bank, but it is going to put one heck of a smile on your face, right? Or maybe a handwritten letter, reminding you that you are truly love and valued?

Even if you agreed to no presents, it's still hard facing the result when someone actually goes through with it!

The weight that settles in your stomach when you wake up to a no-present Christmas is a feeling that no one could be bothered to take a few moments and do something nice for you, that the people you love most were unwilling to give even a little of their time to brighten your holiday.

It may save you money. But it also hurts. And more often than not, it ends up breeding resentment, along with some self-loathing because, hey, you agreed to it, didn't you?

So please, we've got a week left. Do something, anything, to stop this!

If the holidays are really supposed to be about being with the ones we love, why are we willing to forgo showing the people we love just how much?

Do SOMETHING for one another. Write a letter. Set a $10 spending limit. Something!

Would you be able to skip buying Christmas gifts for your significant other? How would you feel if you didn't get something under the tree?

 

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