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Is Exchanging Naughty Pictures With a Stranger Cheating?

by Aunt Becky on December 19, 2012 at 10:12 PM

With the Internet at our fingers, we're one Google search away from anything we can dream of.

The Internet truly does connect us - sometimes in ways that are a bit more intimate than we want or expect. Especially when it comes to naughty pictures sent by virtual friends.

But is exchanging racy photos with strangers really crossing the line?

Every time I turn around, someone famous like Anthony Weiner, or even just a regular old blogger, is busted for sending snaps of their naughty bits in "private messages" on Twitter or Facebook.

Because we have this gateway into (almost) any virtual world we want, many people say and act differently than they would if you met them face-to-face. This includes "online romances" with folks who are otherwise spoken for in real life. I've even known people who've had these online romances before - spoiler alert! None end well!

So I'm curious, is sending half-naked or seductive pictures to an online "friend" cheating?

This might surprise you, but I'd say probably not.

Let's be clear: I'd never do it, nor do I have any desire to take pictures of myself in compromising positions and send them around the Internet a la Paris Hilton. But for some people, I think exchanging sexy snaps is simply like looking at pornography, which we all know the Internet is literally bursting with.

How could I say such a thing?

Well, I think that exchanging lewd photos with an online friend can help a relationship between two real-live people, if both parties are aware of what's going on. Why? If it turns you both on and leads to some hot and heavy action between you and your partner, that's a bonus!

The line, I think, gets blurred when the relationship extends past naughty photos and into the emotionally intimate territory. I'd much prefer that my (non-existent) partner see some girl's boobs than have her tell him she loves him.

However, it's important to note that if sending lewd shots around to people you don't know is part of your life (and it is for some), then it requires honesty with your partner. Sending and receiving naughty pictures has to be done in the open, with honest communication between both partners and the person sending or receiving the pictures in order for it not to be considered cheating.

It sounds like a weird concept, I know, but in the end, every couple has to do what works for them. And if it spices things up? Then no one gets hurt.

But don't even get me STARTED on sexting.

Do you think sending naughty pictures across the Internet is cheating if both partners are into it?

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  • ethan...


    December 19, 2012 at 10:43 PM

    Personally, I think any intent to deliberately cause sexual arousal in another, specific, person outside the relationship is "cheating".

  • blue
    -- Nonmember comment from


    December 19, 2012 at 10:47 PM
    Yes, I do. Anyone who doesn't, is delusional, and probably hadn't had many successful relationships. They say they are "into it," but eventually someone has a problem. It's just not healthy.
  • Pinkmani


    December 19, 2012 at 10:52 PM

    If you don't want your significant other to find out, then it's cheating.

  • Nancy...
    -- Facebook comment from

    Nancy View

    December 19, 2012 at 10:57 PM

    and you do run the risk of that other person to distribute those photos you send. so you better be ready to have your naughty bits on display for the other millions of people on the interwebs.and it wouldn't matter if you told your SO or not... they'll find out eventually. You dont know who to trust on the internet.


  • fave82


    December 19, 2012 at 11:11 PM
    1. EW. 2. I consider anything that you wouldnt want to tell your significant other about 'cheating'. And my husband would flip the f out.. As would i, if he did it.
  • Craft...


    December 19, 2012 at 11:14 PM

    If you are hiding it from your partner, it's cheating. 

  • Cel7777


    December 19, 2012 at 11:47 PM

    She said "if both partners are into it" you wouldn't be hiding it. Personally I wouldn't be into it, but if your partner is aware and encouraging of such, then I wouldn't classify it as cheating. The word "cheating" suggests deception IMHO.

  • MomOf...


    December 20, 2012 at 12:03 AM

    If both partners are into it, then no it couldn't be considered cheating. If both partners knew about it, but one didn't like it & the other did it anyway, then yeah it's cheating. And, really, why would you even want to try & 'spice things up' by looking at nude pics of someone else? To me, that says 'I can't get turned on by looking at you, so let me ogle this real quick to get in the mood.' Sure, they aren't going out & physically cheating, but that still can't be good for their partners feelings about themselves. I find it totally disrespectful to your partner.

  • wamom223


    December 20, 2012 at 12:06 AM

    I think the safest rule is don't do anything you wouldn't want done to you.  So is it cheating if no one has a problem with it? I don't think so, but that doesn't mean I think it make for a healthy relationship.  Its not something we are in to. 

  • areyo...


    December 20, 2012 at 3:01 AM
    Everyones version of cheating is different.
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