"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Kelly* is 30-something years old. She got married young, had kids young, and got divorced young. She's been dating and had a few serious boyfriends along the way, but no one who ended up sticking around. "Some guys just can't handle stepping into the role of stepdad," she says. But then she found THE guy -- a fantastic man named Don* who has kids of his own, loves hers as if they were his own, and wants to marry her. All sounds perfect, right? Except for the little white lie Kelly told Don when they first started getting serious. She told him she had sex with five men in the past. And that's just not true. Read on to hear more from Kelly herself.
I'm so happy in love. So deliriously happy! I met the man of my dreams, he's so cool and loves me and my kids and I love him and his kids -- I even love his ex-wife who is a great woman and mom and really supportive. But I may have screwed something up in those early days that I'm not sure if I can undo ... or even if I have to or should but now that we are taking the leap into real seriousness -- marriage -- I feel like I should tell him the truth.
When that dreaded question about how many sex partners I've had in the past came up, I said five. And five is just not the number. It's about four times that number. I'm not going to apologize for my "number" -- I'm a healthy, smart adult and I made my decisions and am not regretful about my past. What I am regretful about is not just telling Don the truth. I have no idea why I blurted out five. But I did.
I'm assuming Don told me the truth when he said he slept with around 20 women. I answered first though, with this mythical five, and when his number was similar to mine, I instantly regretted it. But we didn't linger on the topic, and moved on. It bothered me then, but I forgot about it. Until now.
I'm afraid if I tell him the truth now, he will think I've lied to him about other things and I haven't. I haven't been more true and honest to anyone in my entire life ... with this one exception. But not telling him the truth is bothering me. What should I do?
Do you think Kelly should tell Don the truth? Or just let it be because it really doesn't matter?
*Names have been changed.
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