Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Thirty-two-year-old Jeanie* is sharing her dirty little secret today. Well, really it's her husband's secret. You see, Mr. Jeanie loves to play with sex toys. Jeanie was totally game when he first suggested it and just assumed that meant there would be some more buzzing pleasure for her. She never thought he meant he wanted sex toys for himself. And she's a little weirded out about it. She realizes it's a double standard, but can't shake the feeling that it's just odd. It makes her feel inadequate. Let's read what Jeanie has to say.
My husband and I are that couple that never had any kind of issue in the sex department. Even after two kids. Sure, it's hard to find time, but we do and manage to have sex at least twice a week. Which in my world, with my group of friends, that seems to be a lot. So we're trucking along, having great and frequent sex and one day Mr. Jeanie decides he wants to use sex toys. Sounds great, I tell him, and ask him to pick some up. He does. And when he whips them out they are all for him.
It's like knowing someone went to the candy store to buy you something but they come home with the one thing you don't like.
He bought the Fleshlight which is a thingy he puts his penis in INSTEAD of my ... you know. And an anal tickler that's supposed to stimulate his prostate. Nothing for me. And he wants me to use these on him. Call me a prude, but I just wasn't into this. And I couldn't help but feel I was doing something wrong or that my vagina wasn't good enough for him because he basically bought a fake vagina that didn't squeeze two kids out of it.
I played along the first time and didn't enjoy it. He did. But we also had great sex afterward. When I mentioned this whole thing to one of my friends she was so freaked out she told me she could never look at Mr. Jeanie the same way again. So I've silenced myself ... until now. I need advice. Is this weird? Should I be worried? Do other husband's use sex toys like mine wants to? Help!
What do you think of Jeanie's confession? Do you think she needs to be worried? Shouldn't she talk to him about her comfort level with the whole thing so they can compromise?
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I'm torn about this. On one hand, you can use the same arguments when a woman buys a sex toy that she'd rather have that than her partner's penis. On the other hand, I would find it disturbing to use an anal tickler on my BF or watch him do it with a fleshlight.
Totally normal, I say go back to the store and get what you want... They give yourself a high five because your husband loves you and feels you love and accept him enough to bring this to you. You may not love his toys but give them some time, great foreplay makes for great sex.
Well.. im very open in the bedroom... to most anything.. so my point of view is diffrent. BUT.. what about the two of you go shopping together, and get some things for you also.... Go into it with an open mind... although it may be very odd to you... maybe you coiuld adjust? and maybe talk to him about, if you help him with those things (im assuming these were fantacys of his) then he can help you with yours... like a trade off.. Dont feel like your vagina isnt good enough.. im sure he's just interested in new things.. it can be very exciting for some people to try new things.. I would say try and open your mind for your husband.. sit down and talk about what exactly he wants, maybe talk about what you are or are not willing to do.. or something you might try, but let him know how you feel... communication is key, as we all know, and it doesnt stop being importnant in this instance either! Good luck!