What NOT to Say to Your Spouse If You Want to Stay Married (VIDEO)

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What not to say to your spouseI used to joke around that my husband has foot-in-mouth disease because that's really the only way I could explain some of the crazy things he used to say, and sometimes still does.

But hey, I'm not exempt either, because there have been plenty of times where I really should have kept my mouth shut.

Apparently my husband and I aren't alone, because I nodded my head in agreement at every single thing the guests mentioned on the newest Mad Life episode, hosted by CafeMom co-founder Andrew Shue.

And chances are, you will too.

So let's talk about the men, shall we, and their uncanny ability to tell us to "CALM DOWN!" in the middle of an argument -- like that's actually going to do anything but make us angrier. 

Thankfully, my husband doesn't do that. He's just the king of the "wow, your arm looks really big from this angle" type of comments, which he then tries to make better by saying "oh but I like when I can squeeze them like that" and "but your hair looks really pretty."

Makes me want to jump right in the sack with him!

But I have to agree with Andrew that it's not just the men who say stupid things. We women have our fair share of annoying habits too, like being nit-picky when it comes to everything our spouses do, even if they're actually doing awesome things around the house. GUILTY AS CHARGED!

So maybe we both need to learn to keep our mouths shut, and say "thank you" a little bit more. And "whatever!" a whole heckuva lot less.

Check out new episodes of Mad Life every Monday and Wednesday.

What does your spouse say that drives you crazy? And what do you say that gets him all riled up?

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fleur... fleurdelys3110

My boyfriend knows by now to NEVER tell me to calm down.

nonmember avatar Jessica

My husband told me my wedding rings were never mine.

dirti... dirtiekittie

this show could have used some canned laughter or something... it felt a bit... awkward? 

anyway, my husband will tell me to calm down and i hate that! but i will give him the sarcastic 'sorry' that doesn't really mean sorry and he can't stand it. after our years together, we know what buttons to push! 

nonmember avatar Bridget

Um-where do I start? I'll try: 1) "OK psycho", 2) "how much of this is a 'you' problem ?" 3) any time he talks in "absolutes" ie: you 'always', you 'never', etc. *esp. Exaggerations* 4) #1 hot button- "wow, look who's about to start HER period", or something to do with 'hormones', which we all know, even if it IS that, a smart man doesn't dare say that! For heaven's SAKE!!..for starters, if it is that, even just a tiny bit of compassion goes SUCH a long way, and if it ISNT that, I just feel, like-what a lo blow and cowardly shirk of responsibility for "anything" ...anyway, most women (at least I do) nearly always come back and apologize if they over react or get too emotional when it's 'around that time of month!' I wish men would just get it that it pretty much sucks for some women -you're so tired, you have a splitting headache, you feel ugly and bloated, your stinking face might be breaking out or your mouth full of painful ulcers, your stomach is cramping, your back aches, and sometimes you're an emotional mess!! But my husband thinks HE'S the victim and I should control my hormones. Hm. That's interesting. And "I'm" called the psycho. LOL!

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