11 Signs He Desperately Needs Sex Lessons

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One of the funniest -- and saddest -- break-up stories I ever heard was the friend who broke up with her boyfriend because he couldn't find her clitoris. I mean, it was there. But no matter how much my friend "guided" him to its whereabouts, he'd just as quickly "forget" where it was. Finally, my friend said she drew him a map. An actual map. Because guys like maps. But alas, this guy was not only bad at finding the clitoris, he was bad at reading maps. My friend ended up dumping him. She felt a little guilty, but she honestly couldn't wrap her head around a guy who claimed to care about her pleasure in bed, but couldn't seem to figure out the female anatomy -- and perhaps had no real desire to.

I'm not saying everyone should be perfect in the sack -- especially when a partner just getting to know what your likes. But then there's just being selfish, or stubbornly clueless, or just plain bad. Here are 11 signs he needs to redo Sex 101.

It's all about him. Sex is over in three minutes, he's satisfied, and then he looks at you like, "That was amazing!" while you're all, "Hello? What just happened? I'm still here!"

Ooooh vs. Owwww. He doesn't know the difference between an Oooohhh that means Keep Going and an Oooohhh that means Stop, that hurts!

He thinks your nipples are dials. And he must twist them. Perhaps he thinks he's tuning you to the right channel.

He thinks your nipples don't exist and ignores them completely.

He thinks that old high school term about "eating out" a girl is a literal term and proceeds to go at you like he's gnawing on a stick of gum.

He seems to have missed his calling as a sports announcer and has to give the play-by-play of everything he does. And now I'm kissing your neck! And now I'm sucking your toes! This is even more annoying if he actually IS a sports announcer.

He won't shut up and keeps asking you questions and grilling you through the entire thing. Do you like this, huh, huh, do ya? Well, do ya?!

He immediately flops over and goes to sleep the second he's done, without so much as a half-hearted snuggle or a peck on the cheek or even a pat on the head.

Foreplay is non-existent. He thinks the term has something to do with golf.

You need to see a chiropracter after sex because he bang bang bangs on you like a human hammer, leaving your neck and back in knots.

He has zero interest in asking what pleases you, and if you decide to tell him, he has zero interest in complying.

What other things does a guy do in bed that you wish he wouldn't?

 

 

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eupeptic eupeptic

With regard to the second to last one, I'd encourage looking into foreskin restoration (or finding a guy who has an intact foreskin as they are more sensitive). (A study about circumcision and the sexual pleasure and satisfaction of woman can be read at the link below).


http://www.cirp.org/library/anatomy/ohara/

nonmember avatar American Expat

But according to American women, any man who needs even one lesson to please them is a pathetic loser to be dumped at once. American women believe all real men know anything and everything and gives mind blowing orgasms all the time, any man who doesn't is a subhuman male.

kelti... kelticmom

Wtf? @ the first two comments. Good grief. Anywho, I once dated a guy, who while he was drop dead gorgeous, he was hopeless in bed. From the way he kissed, to being vulgar, to only worrying about himself getting off --- busted that fantasy completely. My husband and I have a great sex life (when he is not deployed that is), but it's because we've spent the past 7 years getting to know each others bodies and talking about fantasies. Communication, it's everything.

nonmember avatar Rach

@Amercan Expat- You know every American woman and what she thinks about sex and men? No woman I know expects her partner to be a sex god, just expects him to care about her pleasure, as she cares about his.

nonmember avatar guest

well,you forgot to include penis size bashing it cannot be a Stir article without schlong bashing ya know.That is mandatory and proper protocol for this blog-didn't you get the memo??

nonmember avatar American Expat

@ guest - well duh, obviously we all know American women demand 9 inches or larger, it's not even subject to debate lol. Needless to say I fall short of American girls' expectations lol.

the4m... the4mutts

@American Expat- how I've missed your snarky ass!

Lucky for my, I have Italian DNA. Size does not matter, neither does previous knowledge and ability.

I prefer a guy get to know me, my body, and connect with me before we ever even have sex. Then, its good for both of us.

My s/o doesn't do any of the things on this list. He's not great in bed *sorry dear lol* but he cares about what I want, and knows I am willing to return any effort he gives me. I'm happy with my sex life.

nonmember avatar Tanstaafl2

My wife is fed up with my outrageous insistance that she actually moves once in a while during sex (just to reassure me she's still alive - if nothing else). Apparently only perverts want their partners to be active participants in sex.

Estel... EstellaHavisham

This is really sad... how about actually COMMUNICATING about what you like and don't like. Words, people. Use them. 

nonmember avatar monika

This article sums up my ex-husband.

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