Sex Confession: I Kissed My Best Friend & My Husband Doesn't Know

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kissing"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Today Gina* has a secret that she is willing to share ... anonymously, of course. She kissed her best friend. Recently. She's married. Has a couple of kids. Is in her 30s. Yeah, she kissed her best friend, like full on, tongue and all, one night when she was out and her husband was home with the kids. She wasn't even drinking and neither was her friend. They live down the block from each other so they shared a ride into town to go out and essentially made out in the car on the ride home. What makes it even more scandalous is that Gina's best friend is a guy. Yikes! Let's let Gina explain ....

I can't believe this happened! I really cannot believe it! My friend -- let's call him Dale -- has been my friend for years and years. He is also my husband's friend. We all hang out all the time. His wife, kids, my husband, kids -- we have dinners and parties and borrow pots and pans and all that kind of stuff since we live down the street. Never once did I think about kissing Dale in all the years I've known him. We don't have any sexual tension. But I have no idea what happened that night. I am really freaked out about it and still haven't talked to Dale about it.

I didn't tell my husband either. I can't. He could be crushed. Devastated. Hurt. And it probably would end our friendship with Dale and his family. I don't want that. I just wish I could go back in time and erase that it ever happened. I'm not interested in Dale, never thought I was, never want to take it further or repeat it. Though WOW! what a hot kiss it was. But it was a wake-up call. My husband and I hardly ever kiss anymore. I think Dale and I were giddy from having a good time that night, and during the drive home, something just happened and we found ourselves pulled over and steaming up the windows. And just like that we realized what we were doing, stopped, and drove home. Awkwardly. When he dropped me off, I didn't even say goodbye. My wake-up call is that my husband and I need to make out more.

I've seen Dale since and we act like nothing happened. But I do think we need to at least address it. Clear the air. Get a lobotomy maybe? I hate that I am being dishonest with my husband. But telling him could be worse.

What do you think Gina should do? Tell her husband? Talk to Dale?

 

*Names have been changed.

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nonmember avatar Cass

Congratulations, you cheated on your husband. Think of what you'd want your husband to do in your situation, seek advice from those around you who are more objective, and do that. Personally, I'd tell him.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

It sounds as if you really regret it and don't want to follow up on it. If I were you, I would not say anything to my husband about it. Pull Dale aside the next time you see him and tell him that you regret it and it shouldn't have happened and that you should move on. He should understand. Its not worth tearing apart families and friendships for one kiss.

Pinkmani Pinkmani

According to Kyle Richards, (Real Housewives of Beverly Hills) if it was a one time thing you shouldn't say anything to your spouse. 

nonmember avatar melissa

It would be selfish imo to tell. You learned your lesson ( hopefully) and if you never do it again then why make the situation more painful? Your husband would have all kinds of insecure feelings on top of alot of other equally sh*tty feelings that will last alot longer then that kiss did. Yes it will be more weight keeping it to yourself but it would be selfish to confess so that you are relieved.

nonmember avatar Marie

I've been there, I've done that. Only I did it more than once. It took years for my hubby to find out and when he did, he was furious. He called his friend and told him off and has never spoken to him again. It took a long time for us to get past it but we did. However, there is still a level of trust that was broken that I can sense to this day. Feeling your guilt is punishment enough, as long as you don't plan to do it again. Believe me, you will be feeling it for the rest of your life.

nonmember avatar Anna

Do not tell... ever. No one! Ever! Why cause all the hurt feelings that will happen for both families when you dont realy need to? Sounds like you regret it and you stopped before it went too far. We are all human and make mistakes. And everyone has secrets that should never be told.

Bloom... Bloomie79

As long as its over it sounds pretty harmless, you made a bad choice, you don't intend to do it again. I agree that it would be selfish to tell. Don't put yourself in that situation again.


 

nonmember avatar shelly

You did a terrible thing, congratulations. What do you want people to say? You cheated, period. You shouldn't tell your husband, unless you will do it again. You NEED counseling. You are seeking attention outside of your marriage, and it WILL happen again...if you don't fix the problems that exist. You are incredibly irresponsible and selfish to keep seeing Dale by yourself. (At all, actually. I don't get that you care enough about your husband to break off contact, though. Atop being selfish and spend time with the person who deserves it, your faithful husband. Stop putting yourself in the position to cheat, you clearly shouldn't trust yourself.

Samfan97 Samfan97

I agree with the other posters that you cheated. I don't have any advice re: whether to tell your husband or not. I see several problems, though. One, why are you out with another man? A non-husband male should never be your BFF or you're just inviting trouble, period. Make better decisions. Cheating doesn't "just happen"; it was a series of poor choices (including going out, alone, with this man that you have obviously become way too close to).

tbruc... tbrucemom

I don't understand why the wife was out with another man, another woman's husband at that, without their spouses?  I was married for 28 years and would never have gone out at night with another man and left my husband and kids home alone while I did it.  I'm not saying men and women can't be friends, I have had lunch with male co-workers or platonic male friends, but what circumstances would warrant that scenario?

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