20 Reasons Why Men Say They Cheat

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tearsA week after General David Petraeus' affair with writer Paula Broadwell was exposed, it remains big news. He's gotten a lot of flack for the betrayal of his wife Holly. Though not everyone is being hard on the disgraced ex-CIA chief. Pat Robertson, host of the conservative Christian chat show The 700 Club, claims to understand why he strayed. "The man is in a foreign land and he's lonely and here's a good looking lady throwing herself at him and ... he's a man," Robertson said.

Is it just me, or is that a ridiculously lame excuse? Well, we took a poll to find out what drives a man into the bed of another woman. Take a look at 20 real reasons men give for cheating:

  1. "Not adventurous enough in bed."
  2. "I'm just not attracted to my wife anymore."
  3. "Relationships and the conversations that come with them are boring."
  4. "Someone who's willing to be a little wilder comes around."
  5. "Everything was always so serious. Bills, mortgage, kids. I wanted to have some fun."
  6. "The sex is always the same. It was like having the exact same thing for dinner every single night. I needed something else."
  7. "We don't have enough sex."
  8. "I drank too much and made a bad decision."
  9. "She's always tired."
  10. "When she was sick, I didn't feel right asking her for it."
  11. "My wife's just such a mean person."
  12. "She cheated first."
  13. "I realized I was gay."
  14. "I didn't think I would ever get caught."
  15. "I wanted to test out what an open relationship would be like. Then I was going to tell her."
  16. "I don't love her as much as I used to."
  17. "Humans aren't meant to be monogamous."
  18. "Like Chris Rock said, 'Men are only as faithful as their options.'"
  19. "All she does is complain and there is nothing sexy about that."
  20. "Things haven't been the same since we had kids."

What other excuses have you heard?

 

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trini... trinity899

This is just plain scary.  And I think it's sad for a man to cite "boredom" as a reason for cheating.  In this day and age everything is about instant gratification.  What ever happened to working hard on something?  Not for this generation I guess!  

tnyangel tnyangel

You missed, "I was having a mid-life crisis and didn't know what else to do! It was a change!"

tuffy... tuffymama

Numbers eight and twenty are the most common, from my personal observation.

PonyC... PonyChaser

Honestly, it comes down to both of them. There is something fundamentally wrong with the relationship if EITHER party is willing to stray. I don't buy for a second that it's just because he was "bored" or "the sex wasn't as good anymore". Look closer at the things he (the general "he" - the guys from the list) says about his wife's behavior... she didn't want sex anymore, she was always mad, she was always complaining. I'll bet you'll find similar gripes if you ask "her" about the relationship. There was something else wrong, and the complaining, boring sex, lack of sex.... the infidelity... was just a symptom. So go ahead and look at the excuses all you want, but I truly believe that's all they are - excuses. And symptoms.


 

nonmember avatar Frank

How about the one reason I would NOT cheat? It would destroy my wife. The woman I love more than anything.

I understand some of these comments but those are things that should be worked out with your spouse. If they cant be worked out, maybe you should go seperate ways.

hello... hellokd87

I call bs on every one of those. How do men know that us WOMEN might not feel the same (I don't)?! My dad's cheated on my mom for over 20 yrs. Ever since I was 2 yrs old. My mom didn't go flying into the arms of another man. My dad claimed "They were too young when they got married". Then after a while he just started denying it to the ends of the earth. We've caught him red handed and up until recently did he start owning up to it. now he just says he was "stupid". Obviously, there were communication issues as there are with all of  the "excuses" above. If you feel like you're not getting enough or getting what you want. SAY SOMETHING! My fiancee and I are vocal about what we want. He'll ask me if I've been tired or if there's something wrong if I'm not as "into it" as I normally am. We TALK about these concerns because we're in the relationship TOGETHER. I think those excuses are just a lame cop out to say you couldn't keep it in your damn pants where it belongs. Men are physical beings, which is why God created women to understand the logic behind everything that goes on in life.

Pagan... PaganMomma40

Sometimes I really do think that some people just cannot handle being faithful to one person. 

Todd Vrancic

@Frank, there is that.  There is also the fact that I can only make love to the woman I love, and I love no one else in any comparable way.

nonmember avatar jenei

@frank and @Todd.....your wives are so very lucky! And proof that not all men are out looking to cheat. Some guys are actually quite decent people who genuinely love their women.

Jennifer Andrews

You just had a kid and cant fuck me Im only human

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