25 Reasons Women Believe Their Husbands Won’t Cheat

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David and Holly PetraeusPoor Holly Petraeus. She is clearly the biggest victim in the headline-grabbing mess created by her husband David Petraeus' affair with a much younger, much buffer woman. You have to wonder if she was completely blindsided by the betrayal. Many women are, after all.

Despite the stats (about one-fifth of men admit to cheating), a lot of us expect our spouses to keep true to the vows and promises made early on in the relationship. So we asked CafeMom members whether they truly believe their men are faithful and why. Some answers were humorous, some shocking, but all give a poignant glimpse into the absolute faith a lot of women have in their husbands' fidelity. 

  1. "I'm hot!"
  2. "He's only been with me sexually and has no desire to be with anyone else."
  3. "I've been cheated on before and I know this man is different because of his maturity."
  4. "He is not looking for validation anywhere else."
  5. "I took my time dating him before getting married so that I had time to learn who he was. Therefore, I know for a fact he would never cheat, just like I know for a fact he would never harm another human being."
  6. "He never shuts up about me or my daughters so he cuts off any interest at the pass."
  7. "We communicate both good and bad feelings so we would both know if the other cannot fulfill our desires."
  8. "He would never cheat without telling me first. We are 100% honest with each other."
  9. "I know he wouldn't now because we have both cheated on one another and got caught. It was hell for both of us and now we just want to focus on making us work."
  10. "We have threesomes on occasion and that keeps it spicy!"
  11. "Even if a girl would flirt with him in high school he would call me and tell me about it."
  12. "Some people like myself married a man with strong Christian moral values."
  13. "My husband's #1 most important virtue is his word. If he promises something he never breaks it and he sees his vows the same way."
  14. "150% trust!"
  15. "He has worked with me entirely too hard and stuck by me through too much to just go out and cheat."
  16. "My husband is very big on loyalty, he's also been cheated on in the past. We didn't rush into bed together, so I know he isn't an 18-year-old kid that just has to have it at all times. We have more than enough sex, and we are happy."
  17. "He would not trade our family for a one night stand. We are very open with each other on everything. For him cheating would be completely out of character."
  18. "The same way I know he won't ever rob a bank, commit murder, rape a child, or abandon his children."
  19. "He is happy at home. He gets anything he wants."
  20. "I'm more than sure. I'm completely secure in our marriage, if I wasn't well then we wouldn't be together."
  21. "I didn't marry a disrespectful douchebag."
  22. "He is part woman. He grew up with a mostly absent father, a loving mother, three sisters, and a gay brother, so he understands firsthand how women think and feel. So I fully trust him that he would never cheat."
  23. "He doesn't care that much about sex normally. I have to start it."
  24. "I allow him to hook up with other guys on his own sometimes. He lets me hook up with other women on my own sometimes. We're both bisexual, we're both into some kinky things. Sexually, he's satisfied!"
  25. "His ex-wife cheated on him. He can't even watch a movie or hear a song with cheating in it without getting mad."

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fleur... fleurdelys3110

Idk if this was your intention, but this article seems a bit sarcastic and cynical

brand... brandspanknnew

Haha I love seeing women say these things; Yah know, I have complete trust in my SO. We have a very active and interestingly spicy sex life, we share all things with one another, including deep dark secrets. Would he tell me if he cheated? HELL NO. He would never let me know. Do I think he has? No. Have I asked him about if he has? Yes! You never know ladies, and I know all of these are bullshit answers up there because I have been in a relationship, said the above things, and I WAS THE ONE WHO WAS CHEATING. Not that I am proud of it, but just saying how you can never ever take someone's word about cheating. Ever.

brand... brandspanknnew

Of course it is Fleurdelys! These are always sarcastic! <3 I love it.

Mimsy... Mimsymome

Sarcasm can be perception disguised as humor.  I think the absolute belief that either partner in a relationship is incapable of cheating is a dangerous thing.  Under the right circumstances, under the right pressure, most of us are capable of just about anything.  Understanding that, being honest about it, and using that knowledge to safeguard a marriage (thorough transparency, not jealousy) is a lot healthier than blind trust.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

I guess I'm more of an optimist than you guys...

fave82 fave82

Im with you, fleurdelys!

tuffy... tuffymama

Almost all men will cheat given the right set of circumstances. I would say at least half of all women would, too. If you don't believe it, well, I hope you have supportive friends. It's always the ones who don't plan for it at least in the abstract, who are hit hardest by it when it happens.

the4m... the4mutts

While I trust my s/o not to cheat, I don't trust that not enough to get yearly STD tests.

I would never trust anyone completely enough to put my health in danger.

It irritates me most when women say "I trust him not to cheat, so I don't need std tests"

ashes... ashes2ashes831

Ha to you who think its cynical...ever been cheated on? You become this cynical sad lonely mess for a while...

amazz... amazzonia

There are out there men and women that don't cheat on each other, they might be the minority but believe me there are, and for sure I'm one of those people, I can't talk for my husband but I'm pretty sure he thinks the same way as me, first I couldn't look in his eyes ever again for the guilt, second the idea of trying to impress a guy over again,just makes we want to not cheat ever! I can't imagine going thru that again lol if we ever end up separated I think I want to become a nun lol 

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