Men Want Average-Looking Women, Not Hot Babes -- Are You Buying This?

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Okay, gals, stop dieting! Stop getting breast implants! And stop straightening your hair! First off, you are never going to look like Beyoncé, so just give it up. And secondly, men apparently don't want the chick who looks like Beyoncé. Oh, they might SAY they do. But they don't really. What they really want is the average-looking gal who has some personality. Sound fantastically ridiculous? Let's examine, shall we?

Dating expert Tracey Cox rounded up a bunch of studies and concludes that men don't really want the sexy babe with the bodacious bod. In fact, women like that make dudes feel insecure. What they really want is an average looking girl whom they have a "spark" with and who is "nice." Sound like a bunch of hogwash? Says one of Tracey's friends, who is dating a hottie:

I want someone to love me, not feel like every guy in the room is trying to take the person I love away from me.

Er, okay ... then why is he dating a girl who makes him feel like that? Date the average-looking girl and stop complaining. Tracey adds:

Turns out the things women believe make them more appealing to men -- good looks, youth, being super confident, intelligent, body perfect -- aren’t top of men’s wish list after all. Having an OK figure that’s curvy, looking 'nice,' appearing kind, listening, being trustworthy, laughing at his jokes, and letting him look after you -- these are the qualities men most frequently seek in long-term partners.

When you think about it, why wouldn't this be true? Sure, guys don't want to look at Lena Dunham on the cover of Maxim. But I see plenty of girls who look just like her all over the city, and they're holding hands with guys who appear perfectly happy. They couldn't all be faking. And wasn't it supermodel Bar Refaeli who said men never hit on her?

Like women, men probably don't want to date women who attract too much attention. Does anyone want to spend every minute of the day worrying about all of the other people after your partner? I think most of us, whether male or female, want someone who is loving, kind, and whose personality appeals to us over someone who looks like they could be on the cover of Playgirl or Playboy but who is deadly dull or stupid. Just watching which ones of my friends are super popular with the other sex, it's always the talkative, outgoing ones, not necessary the ones with the skinny jeans-worthy body and Vogue-worthy face.

So, ladies, next time you're lamenting the two pounds you put on or whether or not you should get a nose job, ask yourself, are you doing this to be more attractive to the opposite sex? If so, take a chill pill and be yourself.

Do you think men prefer "average" looking women?


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UgtaB... UgtaBkdnMe

Riiiiiiiiiiight, that's why all the girls in mens mags are "normal."

nonmember avatar Rach

They aren't dating and marrying the women from the magazines.

Mrscj... Mrscjones

Exactly Rach they screw the ones in the magazines they marry the normal one. Most women do all the that primping for other women not men because most men don't notice. Most men think a women in a jersey and ponytail is just as sexy as the skintight dress you squeeze into.

nonmember avatar LR

Men usually have trust issues with women, especially in our culture. If you dress like you've had a makeover from What Not To Wear or How Do I Look, men will never trust you, especially when they are insecure about themselves and dress awful. They get jealous, possessive, and territorial. And yes, men are territorial creatures because they don't want their partner to have another man's child because he may not be sure about the paternity.

nonmember avatar Minka

My friends who are not supermodels are married and have 2 or more babies. They did something right.

nonmember avatar Pat

The author is completely correct. As a man we are very attracted to beautiful, sexy women. However it would be very challenging to be with someone long-term who is constantly desired and tempted by other men. I was with a very attractive female friend recently. After a ballgame we went to have a drink. One guy she knew was immediately hostile to me because I was with her. Another guy was trying to hit on her. This scenario would be tough to deal with on a daily basis.

Will Hart

I've been with some very hot women and now prefer average, attractive, honest women with good hearts.

nonmember avatar a girl

You're never going to look like Beyonce so just give up??!! Fuck you!!! If everyone was like you there would be no models/pornstars/playmates! Not every woman want to get married and settle down. Yes many women prefer to stay single and just have fun. If you think women are getting breast implants to find a nice husband you're wrong. We get them to look sexy, to attract men in general. We seek for attention that's what we love it. Don't put all women into the same category coz we're totally different.

nonmember avatar a man

Just my opinion, but you don't sound all that happy, "a girl." To each their own I guess.

As for me, I don't care how sexy a girl looks if she's dishonest or a gossip or shallow or loses it on me instead of talking through differences, etc...

If you're kind and we enjoy just being around each other, that's the best (and that usually makes things the hottest actually).

Great article. Marriage or not, "a girl"; the point is that men are actually looking for a solid, safe connection - even if they don't realize it.

(I'm 27 and I'm regularly told I should be a model.)

nonmember avatar Eddie

Just don't cheat on me and I'll be happy.

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