Child birth is a completely transforming event in every sense of the word. Our bodies, our values, our entire lives are turned upside down by this one tiny creature. But the one thing that hopefully remains consistent is our husband's love. After all, it is the base of the family and the reason these babies are in creation at all.
Writer Martin Daubney claims seeing his wife give birth put him off sex for a year and nearly cost him his marriage. The changes to her body and the act of giving birth to HIS son were so shocking, they made him no longer want her.
Well dude, here's a clue: grow up. My heart aches for his poor wife who probably has no idea that her husband is a flaming horse's ass. Well let me assure her: he is. There are plenty of real men out there for whom child birth is actually a turn ON (go figure) and I pity a man who feels otherwise.
Sure, child birth is shocking and it changes a woman's appearance, sometimes permanently. But it is also beautiful and special. It is a mark of the bond you share and a deeply intimate thing two partners share.
My heart breaks for his wife and the love she missed out on. Both of my births were so amazing, such beautiful and powerful experiences that brought my husband and I so close together. I loved him before kids, but going through that transformation together was SO powerful. I felt like he loved and honored my body in a whole new way. It's when we became a family for God's sake!
If he ever said something like this, I would truly question his character and depth. Because, really. Come on. This is LIFE. If you can't see that as the biggest turn on the world, then you are a blind, shallow person.
This is sort of like men who won't have sex with women on their periods. If you reject the very thing that makes me most female, then how can I possibly believe that you truly love women?
Having a baby together is a joint, powerful experience that is meant to be shared in love. The fact that this man can't see that makes me sad, both for his wife and for him. Open your eyes, dude. You are missing all the best parts.
Did your husband say anything like this to you?
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