Sex Surrogates to Help Shy Men Are Just Prostitutes in Disguise

prostitutionSex surrogates, like the one Helen Hunt portrays in the movie The Sessions, claim they help shy men or men with issues overcome sexual problems in a kind of unique therapy that does eventually include intercourse. But don't call them hookers.

According to the New York Post, this is a very real job that involves caressing and intimacy and training that helps men who are 40-year-old virgins or have some other kind of sexual dysfunction or issue that keeps them from performing.

In the movie, Helen Hunt portrays a special kind of therapist who has sex with a man in an iron lung whose polio kept him from ever losing his virginity. The poignant movie sounds like an Oscar winner, but the concept of sexual surrogacy isn't fictional at all.

So what makes these women different than hookers? After all, they are being paid for sex, right? According to one surrogate, who spoke to the Post anonymously:

I usually begin sessions by working on eye contact and the way they hold their bodies. We use massage and touch therapy, so the client can learn to be in the moment, be comfortable with their bodies and become aware of the sensations. We take a mind-and-body approach and slowly remove anxiety out of the equation.

The fact is, it's a service that is probably helpful to many, but really, how is this different than prostitution? Many prostitutes ALSO make the argument that their work IS a kind of service work. And it is.

Sure, some men probably visit hookers just to get off, but others probably do so for more touching reasons (no pun intended). Maybe their wives don't want sex anymore and they have that need. Maybe their wives are sick and they don't want to deal with emotions with another woman. Maybe they feel shy about asking for their needs to be met sexually, so they can ask someone they pay.

The fact is, it's not all that different. And it's a service that is needed. I see nothing wrong with trained professionals having sex with men for money. If this were legal and seen as a service -- like massage or a manicure -- less women would engage in high risk behaviors and it might be more sanitary as a profession.

Why do these women want so badly to differentiate themselves from prostitutes? Both provide a useful service. But they are the same.

Do you think this is different than prostitution?


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nonmember avatar lilijane

Only difference is a college degree...and probably the price? Please tell me insurance doesn't pay for this....

the4m... the4mutts

Its no different, IMO. And I also have no problems with prostitution. Granted, if my SO cheated, with a hooker or otherwise, I would leave him. But to each their own. I don't see a problem with their existance.

Misty... Misty.Dawn

I think the same as the4mutts...its not different in my book, but i think prostitution should be legal too. But yeah, it would be way worse if my bf cheated with a prostitute than someone else. Bcus #1. How many people that prostitutes been with just gives me the yuckies. #2. Why go pay for it when you can get it at home?

Mommi... MommietoJB

I dont agree with making it legal everywhere but they are both the same thing. I think men would cheat more on their partners if it were that easy to pay 50$ and have fantasy, no strings attached sex with no worries of being jailed.

Vegeta Vegeta

This thing sounds more like a doctor thing, a hooker is just payed one night stand. I think prostitution should be legal, as long as its of the legal adults own free will. But what this article describes seems like a long process of healing.

RavenV91 RavenV91

actually sex surrogates generally work with couples.

Blues... Blueshark77

I don't think it's quite the same as prostitution, but both should be legal.

Texas... TexasHeifer

I think one should be allowed to do whatever one wants with one's own body. Period. The government should have absolutely no say in what consenting adults do with their own selves and with each other. Of course, personal accountability should exist if one hurts someone else, or encroaches on another's person or property in some way, in the process.

tbruc... tbrucemom

I don't think it's any different than prostitution but then again I don't think prostitution should be illegal. I would regulate it and tax it. I do, however, think it's a moral issue. As a wife, I wouldn't want my husband to visit a prostitute unless I was physically unable to take care of him.

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