You've just found yourself in a great relationship with a new guy and you're envisioning wedding bells and babies ... when all of a sudden, it dawns on you -- you're also dating his ex. Why? He's broken a cardinal rule of dating: getting involved with someone new before getting over his ex.
How do you know he's not over his ex? Let's examine some signs that he's SO not over his ex.
1) He accidentally calls you by her name. Often enough that you're starting to wonder if you should change your name to hers, just to feel less crappy about it.
2) His mantle, desktop, and cellphone pictures are all of the two of them together in better days.
3) He's still obsessively interested in what she's doing and who she's doing it with, and he won't stop talking about her new guy to you.
4) He's always in contact with her on social media. From responding to her Facebook updates to using Twitter to reply to everything she ever says, he's all over her.
5) She's still number 1 on his speed dial.
6) Her parents are number 2.
7) He refuses to change his Facebook status from "single" to "in a relationship with (your name)" because, well, he dodges that one.
8) Good or bad, he's always comparing her to you. You're getting used to hearing "(ex's name) blah blah blah" when it comes to anything from the way you snore to how you like your eggs.
9) He can't stop complaining about her. Sounds like a good sign, right? He hates her! Problem is, he's still THINKING about her that much.
10) He reads and rereads her texts in front of you.
11) In fact, he's still texting her regularly - and when she doesn't immediately reply, he seems upset.
12) He's still *ahem* dating her. But he's going to break it off, he promises! *Ahem* lies *ahem*!
13) He's always ready and eager to help her out with anything. Doesn't matter what's up, he'll drop what he's doing and help her.
14) He's been using your computer to check up on her - googling her, looking at her LinkedIn profile, you name it.
15) He insists on walking out of the room every time she calls so you can't hear the conversation.
Have you ever been in this situation? What did you do?
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