Sex Confession: I Don't Allow My Husband to Masturbate

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kissing couple"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Today we're hearing it from Cindy* who swears that all men need to stop masturbating in order to have better sex with their women. She has forbidden her husband Andy* from taking his pleasure in his own hands. It's been two years since she laid down this law and Cindy claims it's been the best two years of sex they have ever had, even counting that wild period before they had kids. I think we need to hear about this rule Cindy instituted and how in the heck does she enforce it. In her own words ...

Lady friends, listen up. This is what must be done. No more masturbating! Kaput! Done-zo! That's what I told my husband two years ago when I felt like all he was doing was pulling his own pud and not taking care of me. For real. He was often way too tired to have sex with me. But I needed him to have sex with me. I was tired of having sex by myself. So that's when it hit me. If I tell him no more masturbating, he will be essentially bursting below the belt and would have to get his jollies with me. No more taking it to the hand.

It worked! He's a guy. He has to release sexually. But by me asking him nicely if he could knock off the jerking off, we both benefited.

Naturally, I have no way of knowing if he truly is never ever masturbating, but what I do know is that since I brought it up and asked him to save his pleasure for me, our sex life improved to be the best it's ever been. Three kids and 16 years later. And that's not too shabby, right? Maybe he liked my take charge attitude -- turn on! Maybe he challenges himself to save his orgasms for me -- turn on! Whatever the case, I'm a sexually happy wife once again. Everybody wins!

What do you think? Would you ever ask your man not to masturbate? Do you think this could work for you like it did for Cindy and Andy?


*Names have been changed.


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nonmember avatar krelia

So basically, the only way this person could have sex with her husband was to force him to? That seems asinine.

Akash... AkashaGermaine

I have a six year old and a one year old, both high energy, high needs kids. I'm often too exhausted for sex by the end of the day. I'm lucky if I have the energy to get it on with hubby twice a week at this point. I couldn't ask him to wait an entire week. Not fair to him. It works for her and that's great. But that doesn't mean i would work for everyone.

nonmember avatar Lauren

Really? You're that insecure that you think your husband will only want to have sex with you if you refuse to let him masturbate? Brutal existence.

Venae Venae

"allow"?  Are you freaking kidding?  What do you think he does when you're not around?  

sofia... sofia0587

Hell no why would I forbid him to do that or anything in general and i wouldn't like it if he told me I couldn't do it!

hanna... hannahsmom238

This is so stupid masturbation in no way ruins sex unless that's all he does in which case that could be a sign of a more serious problem.

SaphireH SaphireH

Wtf so stupid, if you have to ban it just to get better sex I'm afraid to see how that marriage goes all together. My husband is allowed to wack it if he needs to but as far as I know he doesn't because it doesn't get him off doing it himself and he's okay if he has to wait a day or so for us to have free time to have sex but truthfully if he does and I don't know about then fine by me just like he understands there's times that I need to fix the issue myself and he's totaly fine and it doesn't destroy our sex life

nonmember avatar Vanyel Kane

I had a different thought, maybe its a power game. She does sound slightly like a dom and he a sub. I know a sub that goes crazy with need and only then will their mistress let them come.

He has given her control and it is sexy as hell, maybe?

puasa... puasaurusrex

Lol, I must be insane then because my husband masturbating does amazing things for our sex life! I would never-and could never imagine even trying to- "forbid" him to stop.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

That's crazy. Maybe instead of banning masturbating all together, you and your husband might try masturbating together. It's a good way to spice up your sex life.

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