Sex Confession: I Agreed to a Threesome & Now I'm Freaking Out

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Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Today's sex confession comes from Willow,* a 30-something mom of two who just recently had her divorce finalized. It was a long and painful journey to get her to where she is today -- happy again. She has no interest in jumping back into the dating world, in fact, it scares her. When out recently she met a couple -- friends of friends -- who asked her if she wanted to have a threesome. Willow says she was attracted to them from the start -- they were smart, creative, and good looking. But she never had a threesome -- she hasn't even had sex with anyone other than her now-ex-husband in over 10 years. She agreed. A date has been set. And now she's freaking out. Read on to hear more of what Willow has to say.

I am not the kind of person who has threesomes, whatever that means. I am square. Boring. Missionary is my favorite position. I've used a sex toy twice. I am dull beyond dull. But since my ex and I split up, I started exploring more of what I want out of life. More than just being a mom, which is wonderful and I am so blessed to have my kids, but I am still a person with needs and wants and desires, even though I am terribly boring.

Apparently, I'm not that boring because a very good looking couple wants to have sex with me. ME! A stay-at-home mom and housewife! I'm Fifty Shades of Grey HAIR! This is huge. So of course I said yes, of course there is a date set, and of course I am now freaking out wondering what in the heck am I going to do with two people who want to have sex with me? I'm not even very good at having sex with one person (just ask my ex). And frankly, I'm not even great with having sex with myself. 

But this ... this is like my dream. A total fantasy waiting to happen (the date is in two weeks)! I keep telling myself that I will be porno fantastic. My sexual instincts will kick in. It will be amazing and liberating and so good for me for so many reasons. But I'm freaking out. I can't talk to anyone about this! I need your help internet friends! Tell me I can do this!

What advice do you have for our confessor? Should she put her fears aside and live out this fantasy?


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linzemae linzemae

It's your fantasy go for it! I hope you enjoy every minute of it

puasa... puasaurusrex

Shoot, if I were the third person and wasn't in a relationship, I'd do it! Have fun!!

Autum... Autumnjean26

You are so down on yourself about your lacking bedroom skills. I say go for it. Maybe this experience will bring out a sexual side you never knew you had. And maybe you will learn a thing or two and boost your confidence in the bedroom.

Casey Dalbey

Do it, have fun, and I don't think ANYONE is bad at sex. BUT I do think you need to set up some rules as to what you are willing to do or not do. Things like the use of condoms and sex toys. And realize you can walk out on the agreement at any point from now until half way thru the adventure. Also let a friend know what you are doing and where just to be safe (someone that won't comment or judge). Be safe and enjoy yourself whether in this adventure or the next.

areyo... areyouatroll

Have a glass of wine and DO NOT try to act like youre in a porno. In fact, don't watch any porn to get ideas either. It's unrealistic.

jalaz77 jalaz77

Haha. Why not? If they really know each other, no STD's, use protection and be buzzing why not??

Caera Caera

It sounds like common sense is trying to take over. Listen to that little voice that's saying, "What the hell are you doing, this is a bad idea!" and politely cancel.

mustb... mustbeGRACE

How disgustingly gross beyond belief.


doubl... doubledsmommy

I don't get this whole fantasy. You will be the third wheel, and to top it off you are outnumbered, so if something goes wrong, god help you. Plus, are you really attracted to women? Too many women nowadays think it's the "thing" to do, but don't have the attraction. You could be setting yourself up for psychological trauma.

work4... work4mickey

Don't jump into anything you're not ready for. Be honest with the couple. If they're the kind of people you should even consider a threesome with, they'll respect that. You don't have to take the threesome off the table (if you are really still interested). Maybe hang out with the couple more and work your way up to a three way make out or petting session. It's okay to say you're not sure what you want and if things take a direction you don't like, even if you thought you would, it is ALWAYS okay to say "stop, I changed my mind."

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