Mom Admits Everything's Easier When Dad's Away From Home (VIDEO)

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coffee shop confessionsAs much as my fiance and I love one another, we totally value time apart from one another. There are definitely things he feels like he can get away with when I'm out of town (like taking a 15-minute trip to the grocery store and coming out with just some sugary cereal, a box of crackers, and pasta), and there are things I feel like I can get away with when he's out of town (like spending two hours in Whole Foods, perusing gourmet and organic foods to my heart's content). But when we're together, we do what we can to strike the balance. That's what partnership is all about, right?

Well, sure, but sometimes we also get frustrated that we can't keep doing things "our way" when our honey's around. Consider one mom who appeared on the latest episode of CafeMom Studios' Coffee Shop Confessions. She actually admits she gets so frustrated when her hubby comes home and throws her off her parenting game, she actually wishes she was a single mom sometimes! Whoa.

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SUCH a universal issue, huh? Even if you don't butt heads with your partner over parenting tactics or the interruption of one of you being out of the house and then coming home and shaking things up, I'll bet anyone in a relationship can relate to this wife and her DH. It's inevitable that you're going to find that you're on a completely different page than your partner at some point.

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But I'm totally with Julia, Tia, and Simon in that ultimately, it's about taking heart in the "beautiful chaos of juggling," alwaaaays communicating (and not in a passive-aggressive way!), and doing what you can to strike a balance in regards to who is in control. At the same time, I love how they talked about respecting your partner's space. Somehow getting all of these elements to come together is definitely not easy! But I would think if you love one another and really do want to try to get on the same page, it's totally worth it.  

Can you relate to this mom? 


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puasa... puasaurusrex

My husband works out of town around the country for about 3 weeks out of every month. It's easy for us to get into the swing of things and the constant change, but it's much easier when he's home. When he's gone, I get no time to myself, no opportunity to get extra sleep, and is very difficult to get school work done. I think anyone who wishes they were a single mom has huge issues with co-parenting and their marriage in general.

nonmember avatar MrsClark

My husband is a fire fighter. He works 24 hour shifts. He also works a second part time job. We have three children who r 6 and under. I am with the kids by myself a lot of the time and it's hard. A quick trip to the grocery store is non existent. Im so grateful that he works so hard to support his family, but im so relieved when he is home to help me with the kids. I would no way wish being a single parent, even if we do disagree. To the single parents out there, kudos to u! I don't know how u do it.

Megankae Megankae

My husband has been deployed for the last six months, and he's going to be gone at least six more.

It's super hard on me when he's gone because it's just my son and I. Did I also mention we live six thousand miles from our nearest relative?

But it is also easier, it's just the two of us.

I'd rather have him here, obviously. But, we make it work.

Some things are simpler, like the laundry and keeping up on dishes. But man let me tell you I hate taking out the trash. Haha

But what are you going to do?

I can say that it is nothing like being a single parent. I get to stay home with my son all the time, not go to work and juggle being a mom and finances. Being a single parent is MUCH more than just parenting a child alone.

kjbug... kjbugsmom1517

I can definately relate. My husband is not helpful during these times of chaos. I dont wish i was single but if he were more helpful id enjoy him alot more lol.

fave82 fave82

I think she should be careful what she wishes for.

nonmember avatar wassingleparent

Please. I expect you would like to be a single parent as long as your spouse's paycheck were still coming in. And as long as you had someone to help with the driving when you needed it, and someone else who could help with homework, and someone who can drop in when you realize that you need milk and bread and it's 11 pm...yes, being a single mother is splendid.....not having that pesky husband around to annoy me sometimes.

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