3 Reasons Kristen Stewart & Monica Lewinsky Should Be Happy About Being 'Slut-Shamed'

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Let me make this very clear: "slut-shaming" is despicable. For those of you who haven't been schooled on the term, it's basically all about bashing someone the public views as slutty or who may have had a sexual indiscretion. And it's totally unfair. Like the modern day equivalent of the scarlet letter, it's absolutely degrading.

But -- and this is a big BUT folks -- while the act frustrates me to no end, I have discovered some surprising perks of being "slut-shamed."  It doesn't actually ruin your life. Quite the contrary ... it could improve it.  I know, it sounds crazy, but I swear it's true. And there is irrefutable proof thanks to women like Monica Lewinsky and Kristen Stewart.

A moment of frolicking with a very famous man can lead to a lifetime as a household name. No one is ever, ever going to forget that Monica got it on with then President Bill Clinton. Her last name has even become a synonym for oral sex in the workplace. But in a weird way, the notoriety has worked to her advantage. She launched a purse line that could easily have tanked had it not been for the name attached.

Another perk, people will finally see you the way you want to be seen. Take KStew for instance. Not that she wasn't already a superstar. The girl will always be Bella to about a billion Twi-hards. But cheating on Robert Pattinson made her the most hated woman in Hollywood for all of five minutes. It wasn't long 'til we saw a new Kristen emerge -- confident, sexy. People are looking at her in a new way. Gone is the awkward girl and a grown-up has emerged instead. Her makeout with Snow White and the Huntsman director Rupert Sanders really moved her away from her play-it-safe teenage Twilight days.

The end result is reinvention, reinvention, reinvention.  What did Monica do after the dust settled? She sat down with Barbara Walters, did two stints on SNL and started a clothing line. She actually sold some stuff because hell, who doesn't want to buy a bag made by the woman who got to play footsie -- among other things? Now, Lewinsky is planning an explosive exposé on her sexcapades with Slick Willie.

And Kristen changed her life by lightening up and smiling. That's right, after her scandal started to blow over, she emerged sporting a softer, more likeable image. In a way, the whole mess, couple with her shocking public apology, has made her more human. She may have never been moved to do that had she not been so mercilessly "slut-shamed".

All that said, bashing a woman for her romantic indiscretions is still plain wrong. I'm just trying to look on the bright side and based on what's happend to these ladies, there definitely is one.

Do YOU think "slut-shaming" women is okay?

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Pinkmani Pinkmani

Another reason why that glass ceiling is hard to crack...

Deann... Deanna2872

Monica's last name isn't really used when referring to oral sex in the work place. It's actually used to reference a sexual act that is nowhere near as 'innocent' as oral sex(lol). As for Kristen, I guess we should ALL be thankful that all it took was the shame, humiliation, and extreme pain of those small children as their family was ripped apart (because of her and their fathers indescretion), because HEY!- at least she's smiling now! *eye roll*

Honestly, I'm not one for the whole slut shaming act. But seriously? If these women didn't want to be shamed as sluts, maybe they shouldn't have acted like sluts, with MARRIED MEN! I don't give a SHIT what THEY got out of it. I'm more concerned with what the children have to go through. THEY are the ONLY victims here. I think the men deserve slut shaming as well! They're nothing more than little men who think they're 'above' the rest of the world. That's why they don't give a shit about their wives, their children, OR their mistresses. Because they're pieces of shit. But as long as people keep attitude's such as "Oh, president Clinton didn't do anything wrong, and if he did its none of our business anyways, because we love him! But that Monica, she's a liar AND a whore!", things will never be equal. Men in power will continue to flaunt that power to GET stupid women, and then use that power to try to shut those women up. The best way to not be a victim of slut shaming? Don't f*ck around with married men! Period!

ImaSo... ImaSoulMom

Being slutty can make you cool? You may reap some benefit. God forbid any daughters out there get an std because look how cool kstew seems now.

silen... silentlady

I'm with you, Deanna2872!!

nonmember avatar Ashes

Seriously bashing women for romantic indescretions.....clearly your one of two parties you've had an affair with a married man or you've never been cheated on. I'm going with #one. I'm sorry but after 8 yrs of marriage, 2 children I found out my husband had an "indiscretion" and let me tell you I was furious at him and disgusted with her she was my "friend". The pain my family suffered is all for the greater good right? I act like a bigget person because the "slut" in my situation needed to reinvent herself. You should be ashamed for acting like cheatings ok. No it's both parties fault but why WHY go after a married man in the first place. I'm glad kslut is smiling now I know it took me 2years to earn that confidence back. :)

nonmember avatar blh

Fucking a married man is nothing to be proud of you.

Donna Lightle

Why do you even compare the two and keep the bullying on with Kristen, it down right disgusting. I, for one am so tired of it and wish people would stop.
It was so neat when an anchor woman made news in fighting back the *rudeness* of a viewer. Saying how easy it is to bully on the internet when you don't have to face the person. I say, "Good for her!!!". I wish more people would stop and think before they type mean, rude, ugly comments for the main purpose to hurt.

nonmember avatar Hardly Unfair


Should society not comment on anything? How about kids playing on a busy road, don't call them out publically? I'm guessing we should also, under your schema, socially promote kids? How about other hazardous practices?

Get a grip and some backbone: If the shoe (or body cavity) fits, they're sluts.

"Let the truth be known though the heavens may fall".

Personal responsibility is a good thing.

SassB SassB

If "it":

Walks like a slut

Acts like a slut

Reps like a slut

Talks like a slut

......... like a slut

I consider "it" a slut. While compassionate to their issues and not being in their shoes, how well would society function if 'everyone' acted that way? Hint: Look at the relatively open marriage practices in Kenya: Their society has been devistated with ~1/3 of adults positive for HIV.

nonmember avatar Sarah

Kristen and Rupert Sanders have both denied having sex. What they did was make out which is definitely wrong. Not sure if it was once or more, but it wasn't sex. Most importantly it stopped when they were outted and she and he apologized. She did the day the pics came out. I think her case is over-blown by the media because of who she is. I don't know the status of the Sanders relationship but I head read they were trying to reconcile but his wife hadn't decided. From what I read both Sanders and his wife seem pretty intelligent and able to cope. I think they can take care of the children. People who keep condemning Kristen are just dragging this out and giving the children more to read about some day imo.

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