Love & Sex

So I guess Bachelorette Emily Maynard and her reality lover Jef Holm really are, in fact, going to get married. Emily told Life & Style that wedding planning has been so easy because, basically, Jef does whatever she wants. Apparently, Em's been planning her big day since she was young, and has all the details worked out.

If I executed the wedding I had in mind as a little girl, I'd wear a basketball jersey, feed everyone Skittles, and dance my face off to Zack Attack, but I suppose that's neither here nor there. It's Emily's day, and she can do whatever she wants. Mostly.

I mean, shouldn't Jef have some say?

It sounds like Jef subscribes to the idea of "happy wife, happy life," but I don't know, that sounds like a recipe for resentment in the long run. Here's what Em said:

It’s been so easy. I’ll show Jef the ugliest thing in the world, and he’ll be like, "Whatever you want, I want."

Oh, Jef Jef Jef Jef Jef Jef JEF. That's sweet. Hope you enjoy showing up to your wedding in a horse-drawn carriage and dancing your first dance to Spice Girls' "2 Become 1."

Not that Emily's planning those things, but still. I've never fully subscribed to the notion that a man should only try and make his wife happy. I know in that Men/Mars Women/Venus book, they talk about how men are fulfilled by fulfilling the needs of a woman, and yes, that's gotta be true on a lot of levels, but come on, if a guy says yes to everything, he's going to lose his sense of self faster than you can say, "I had no idea you liked full body pillows that much."

It's important to have a partnership. If one person, regardless if it's the man or the woman, is calling all the shots, the balance of power is off, and happiness is at jeopardy.

If Jef wants a happy wife and a happy life, he should speak up a little bit, starting with the wedding.

Do you believe in the "happy wife, happy life" philosophy?

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