The 8 Best Things About Being in a Committed Relationship

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Monogamy gets a pretty bad rap from a lot of different corners - people who've divorced, those who are single, people who just like to hook up. They're not huge fans of being exclusive.

And they have a point (to some degree or another) because monogamy, if it's not with the right kind of person, isn't worth it. In fact, dating someone you don't want to be monogamous with (or who doesn't want to be monogamous with you) is a waste of time.

But monogamy comes with a lot of good stuff too, providing you have the right partner. Here are some of the best parts of being in a monogamous relationship.

1) Hand-holding. If your relationship is monogamous, it means that there's no weirdness about a cuddle during a movie or hand-holding while walking along the river. It comes naturally and it can bring even the most jaded of us some happiness.

2) You don't have to worry about safe sex. That doesn't mean you shouldn't insist that you and your partner get tested for STDs, only that you're less likely to pick up something from someone who's been with just you for a length of time.

3) You don't have to worry about defining your relationship. It's been defined already and you can feel both safe and secure in your partnership.

4) You both have someone you can tell your secrets to. Even the ugly ones. True partners share the good and the bad about their lives, and it's wonderful to have a safe place like your relationship where you can discuss your innermost secrets and desires.

5) You truly love each other. There's no better reason to be in a monogamous relationship than the love. If you're really in love with your partner, you can't imagine sharing your bed or your life without each other.

6) You don't have to worry about your partner seeing other people. If you're both monogamous, you don't have to deal with the jealousy, the rampant texting from the "other" girls. It's just the two of you!

7) In a good monogamous relationship, there is mutual respect. You respect your partner and he or she respects you just as much. That's a vital part of romantic (and other kinds of) relationships.

8) You have someone out there you can truly trust not to hurt you, screw you over, or do you wrong. You're allowed to be vulnerable and open up to your partner without the fear that he or she will reject you for your confessions.

What are some other reasons monogamy is amazing?

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the4m... the4mutts

All this is assuming that the other person isn't a well practiced liar.

These things are all great in theory, but I wouldn't want to be the one condoning unsafe sex for anybody. Even when I wasdmarried, I got checked for stds every year. The doctors thought it was odd, but I insisted. I will never trust my health to another person by assuming that they haven't cheated, simply because we've been together for a decent amount of time.

Torra... TorranceMom


Totally agree.

poshkat poshkat

Not worrying about safe sex? You ALWAYS have to worry about safe sex unless you want to have child after child.

AniAngel AniAngel

I don't have to worry about safe sex, that's monogamy, and my husband had a vasectomy when we were done having children. If you can't trust your prartner then you shouldn't be in a committed relationship.

nonmember avatar Samantha Stewar

So just because I'm in an open relationship means that I can't be "truly" in love, or have someone to tell my secrets! What a crock of *hit, I know my boyfriend and I both respect each other and have a future ahead of us, just because we decided, as in both of us, that an open relationship fit our life style better for right now doesn't mean that we're not serious or getting into trouble. Maybe the author should rethink what defines a relationship. Monogamous isn't the only way to go.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

I am in a long term monogamous relationship but I am not married nor am I trying to have a baby. Safe sex is a MUST. Safe sex doesn't have to refer to not getting diseases; it is also preventing pregnancy. So unless you are trying to conceive, you had best practice safe sex. While I think that point is misguided, I agree with all the other ones. My boyfriend is literally my best friend in the whole world, and it's great to have a best friend and SO all wrapped into one.

nonmember avatar duh

Condoms kill good sex--1% of men enjoy those and you CANNOT FEEL SQUAT with one on.I agree w/ everything the blogger said in her article.

Wheep... Wheepingchree

I like the sex that comes with a long-term relationship. It's such a nice feeling to always be able to try new things with my husband without fear of being judged. I don't think monogamy & being committed are the same though. My husband & I are in a polyamorous marriage, but we are very committed to each other. We just like to try different things, but we do it together.

mompam mompam

I don't worry about safe sex at all. I completely trust my husband and I had a tubal years ago.

Flori... Floridamom96

Um, you forgot the AWESOME sex!

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