7 Kinds of Sex to Avoid at All Costs

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Sex. It's such a simple, animalistic instinct. But it can be a wonderful, intimate time you spend with someone you love dearly or a great way to release pent-up frustrations. There's a lot to like about sex.

But not all sex is created equal, which is why it's important to avoid THIS kind.

1) Coercion Sex - one of the worst types of sex to engage in is the sex that you don't really want to have, but you're doing it because if you do it he'll just leave you alone and let you go back to sleep. While it might SEEM like the path of least resistance, it'll make you feel badly enough about yourself after the fact that it's just not worth it.

2) Obligatory Sex - while this type of bad sex goes hand-in-hand with coercion, it's a little different. This is the type of sex you have out of obligation, because you feel like it's your duty as a wife or girlfriend. Not very fun or romantic.

3) Rebound Sex - while most of us have had this kind of sex after our hearts are broken, it's not the kind that truly tends to make us feel better. It often ends up making us feel worse because we've just given away an intimate piece of ourselves -- and for what? It's not like the person who broke our heart cares.

4) Depressed Sex - most of us don't feel turned on in the slightest while we're feeling down. While sex does release endorphins (our brain's pleasure chemicals), we need to be in the mood for sex before we can consider it to be worthwhile.

5) 'If I Give It Up, He'll Love Me' Sex - it happens. We dig a guy - a lot - and we feel as though if we have sex with him, we'll end up getting him to fall for us. It doesn't work that way, and no condoms can protect the heartbreak it can cause us.

6) Wasted Sex - it may SEEM like a good idea to go home with that cute guy from the bar and get down and dirty. But if you're drunk and about to engage in sexual activity, you're more likely to take risks and put yourself in a dangerous situation.

7) UN-Safe Sex - sure he says he's infertile. Or that he's clean. But how do you know it's true? His word? You're placing your own personal well-being at risk if you decide that un-safe sex is okay. And that's not good.

What are some of the other types of sex to avoid?


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Pinkmani Pinkmani

I don't know how women do these one night stands. Maybe it's because I'm a native New Yorker who always questions people... I wouldn't trust any man to take me to his home/hotel room.

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Christen Aubuchon

I had a boyfriend that went around telling everyone that he was infertile, well, I thought I was pregnant and I called him to let him know what I was planning to do, get a test and what not, first words out of his mouth was, "It's not mine, I can't have kids". That pretty much ended that relationship. Turned out I was over stressed, I wasn't pregnant. Now 5 years down the road, I was talking to a friend of mine that is a friend of his still and he has 2 kids that are biologically his. So much for being infertile.

Newle... Newleaf32

Disagree on the obligatory sex - sometimes when you're married you just don't feel like it - but it's important not to let your partner feel rejected. I have done this a couple of times (most times I really want to) but I have never regretted it afterward. Sex between spouses in a healthy marriage is always a good thing.

jessi... jessicasmom1

sex between partners or spouses is in a healthy marriage is a good thing

MamaL... MamaLulu12

I agree with Newleaf32, a lot of men feel sex is equivalent to emotional bonding, whereas women can get the same feeling of closeness from cuddling or talking. Even if you don't start out "being in the mood," you might end up there, and it's worth it if it avoids conflict and reminds your partner he/she is loved :)

I thought this article was going to be 7 things like, "Don't have sex in a portapotty in Iwoa, it's a felony," and "Studies have shown doggy style kills brain cells."

Anna Potts

hey i met my man because of rebound sex i hated my ex he actuly accused me of sleeping with my now awesome man. i never even liked him untill he got so mad and accused me the next week we broke up i went with seth and we have been together 2 1/2 years strong with a baby girl.


wamom223 wamom223

I know a girl that got pregnant from a man that said he was fixed.  When she confronted him he said, I'm sorry I got scared and couldn't go thru with it, and she said, yeah but you didn't have to lie to me.  So yeah I agree with #7.

zandh... zandhmom2

Nothing wrong with obligatory sex...sometime I do it just because it's been a couple of days and "I" feel I should.  Between work and kids sometimes the time goes passes by and you realize it's been a week so you do it just to do it.  Also, I have never been depressed but I do have high anxiety for time to time and I will have sex just for the stress release that comes from it. My husband has never complained when I tell him 'honey, we NEED to sex 'cause I'm so stressed" :)) You know when you are with someone for a long time (almost 24 years) sex comes to mean a lot of different things.

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