Bethenny Frankel & Jason Hoppy's Separation Was a Long Time Coming

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bethenny frankel jason hoppyI think you're with me when I say that love died the day that Amy Poehler and Will Arnett announced they were getting a divorce, so it should sting a little less when I tell you that Bethenny Frankel and Jason Hoppy are separated. Well, kinda. But not really? I'm just as confused as you are. Here's the deal.

No papers have been filed or anything, but Bethenny told In Touch that she and Jason spent the summer apart.

Bryn and I spent the last six weeks in the Hamptons playing on the beach. We just had a magical, amazing summer. Jason was in the city working, and it was nice. He came on the weekends. It was good for her that we got to do outdoor activities. It was good for me, because I was ready to crack.

Then, a source claimed that when Jason did make it out to the Hamptons, it was only to see Bryn. You'll notice that Bethenny said that having Jason working in the city "was nice" and only mentioned her and Bryn's happiness, not hers with Jason, nor Jason's alone.

Separations can be really effective. They can help you figure out that you miss your spouse, and that working through your issues is worth it because at the end of the day, you want them around; or, they can highlight the fact that you're happier alone.

And if you are, in fact, happier alone, then what exactly are you fighting to save?

We've all seen Bethenny and Jason go through some pretty serious rough patches during the first two years of their marriage, and I have to say, I'm not optimistic these two crazy kids will make it. It sounds like Bethenny really relished her time without Jason. Not only that, but she says she was ready to crack, presumably right before her beach break, which was presumably when she was with Jason.

If you ask this arm chair psychologist who has never spoken to either party and is decidedly not privy to any of their personal feelings on the matter, I'd say this six-week separation shows that they're happier apart.

It's gotta be incredibly difficult for a couple to realize that they're better off apart, but sometimes it happens.

Sounds like the separation worked, but the result was painful.

Do you think separations are a good way to figure out a relationship?

 

Photo via Pacific Coast News

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Venae Venae

I used to love her on Housewives - but now I can't stand the sight of her.  She is so self-absorbed - there's no way she has room for her husband.  And if she doesn't eat a decent meal soon, she is going to drop dead of an anorexia-induced heart attack.

lawliss lawliss

She is really self absorbed and I can't help bt wonder if that's what contribted to the break p. Hoping that Bryn trns ot ok and secre.


 

Ashle... AshleyB1984

Its sad but she seems to think she's more important than all of the people around her. That's not good for any relationship.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

My family has known Bethenny personally for many years; she is as crazy as she seems on television and then some. Her poor husband is just too normal for her.

maris... marisbaby

i don't know what you were watching but her husband is an asshole

nonmember avatar kay

Yes, he has some pretty unrealistic expectations also. I won't go as far as calling him an asshole, but being married to him would also be an uphill battle. But then again, isn't this true for everyone? It's certainly true for my marriage. We're EQUALLY nuts. :)

Cye Cye

Hmmm...seems like he was very pissy and downright cruel to her when the cameras weren't rolling. (On those occasions when she would break down, she would repeat things he had said to her and it was never nice. He preyed on all her insecurities.) Sounds like he played nice for the audience. No way is he as perfect as he seems. They are definitely not right for each other.

Readi... ReadingIsSexy27

Marriages are never perfect.  My husband and I lived separately over the summer, he worked in NYC and I stayed home with our kids and visited family in different states.  I have to admit that while I love my husband the distance was nice.  Better for me than him, he was alone and missed everyone so much.  I had our kids and our familes and was doing OK.  I love him but I hoped the distance would help us appreciate each other more.


Our society is too self absorbed in general.  People make commitments to each other, get married, have kids and then separate  because they arent happy.  They put their unrealistic expectations of happiness before the well being of their children.  You dont have to go around acting like a spoiled brat because your husband isnt your prince charming and doesnt make you unspeakablly happy.  You can suck it up and be thankful for the good you have in your life.


Anyone who is the product of divorce, no matter how amicable the divorce was, has damage done as a result of the choices their parents made.


Now I do agree that there are SOME cases where divorce is better than staying together.  There is no question about that.  But in general people need to take marriage, and bringing kids into this world, much more seriously.

fleur... fleurdelys3110

Agreed, ReadingisSexy! (also love your name, I'm such a bookworm!) It is ok to walk away when there is nothing left to try to improve a marriage, but people walk as soon as the going gets tough without thinking about what it means for their family.

Norma J Brill

  Honestly I saw this coming before they were married. she has a controlling personality. He's a home body with  good moral up bringing where  she was tossed from pillow to post. The birthday party that he threw her and the vacation both went to hell. It was her way or eventually the highway. He's getting a well deserved divorce .

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