"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Today's sex confession comes from Leslie* who has been married to Ryan* for eight years. She's a mom to two kids, is nearing 30, and just got the green-light to have extramarital affairs. Yes, Ryan is allowing his wife to be with other men. After Leslie brought up the idea of an open marriage, Ryan said yes. If you think Ryan is a pushover or weak or insane, think again. Here's a man who is willing to do whatever it takes to make his wife happy ... but his agreement to this is not without a few rules. Let's let Leslie tell you the rest.
I don't believe in monogamy, but I do believe in marriage. Being with other men or women was not something Ryan and I ever really discussed, but at this point in our marriage, something had to change or else our marriage would end. I found myself fantasizing too much -- imagining myself with other men. And I wanted to act on it. But I would never do so without permission from Ryan. What we have is too important to me and I didn't want to betray him or our trust. So after much internal dialogue, I finally talked to him about it.
I told him I wanted to have an open marriage. He could be with whoever he wanted, just as I could, and we would keep our love and home life out of it. It would just be sex, just fun outside of the house. He said he had no interest in being with anyone else. But he would think about my proposition. Ryan was great about the whole thing -- he didn't get angry or hurt or sad. It didn't affect his ego because he knew I loved him and was true to our promise that we would make our marriage work ... even if it was in non-traditional ways.
Weeks went by before we talked about it again. And when we did, he stayed firm that he still had no interest in being with anyone other than me, but he said I could ... just no sex. I could make out, even have oral sex, with others, but that's it. I was so excited by this that Ryan instantly became even more attractive to me than ever before. The fact that he was that secure in himself to allow me to fulfill these unconventional desires was a turn-on. And what ended up happening is he and I have been having sex more than ever. And it's better than ever.
I haven't used my open marriage pass yet, but I do like knowing I have it. It has made my marriage better.
What do you think of this confession? Would you ever be able to be in an open marriage situation?
*Names have been changed.
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I'll never understand why someone gets married if they want to have sex with other people. Marriage vows specifically say "forsaking all others". I think that people that have sexual relationships outside their marriage, even in "open" relationships, are incredibly selfish. We live in a sad, sad world when people throw morals and values out the window like some people do today. I'm by no means a prude, I just think sex outside marriage is wrong. Get divorced or stay single if you want to screw around.
I love my husband and he means the world to me, we have a very great relationship. I can see how an open marriage would work with two consensual adults. It makes sense. It's not an impossible concept and people need to look farther than their little box to understand. Judgmental asswipes.
I've gotta say, I can't believe all the judgements. So many commenters on this site come across as "holier than thou" and it's ridiculous. There isn't a right way or just one way to live and be happy. I just read six pages of comments that straight from the first sentence said how wrong an open marriage is, with the exception of very few open minded opinions. Marriage is serious, probably one of the most serious and life changing decisions, aside from having children; but that doesn't mean everyone makes the same promises and has the same vows. Not everyone gets married in a church, for god, with god, whatever, because not everyone believes. This is bigotry at it's best. The old 'you're wrong because you don't agree with me'. Just fucking stupid. And these are the parents that are raising the next generation? Acceptance or tolerance is definitely not a word most of you know.
Whore. I dont care who you are. Male or female. If you think open marriage is okay then you are a whore. Plain and simple. I can't stand cheaters. I'm probably jaded because my husband is a cheater. I wish I were strong enough to leave him, my whole world feels dead and cold. The only warmth I have left is my children, one of which I am currently 36 weeks pregnant with. They dont know what he did and they dont need to. They love their dad and I could never damage them like that. So we pretend. But on the inside, I have metaphorically strangled him several times a day since I caught him. I can never trust him. All he is now is my kids' dad. Thats all he is, was, and ever will be.
I've maintained that when it's OK to leave (marriage, job, whatever),THEN sometimes it's OK to stay. this woman says she hasn't acted on her husband's permission, and I suspect she might never - just knowing it would be OK is sufficient.
And like my wife once told me (not sure if she was serious or not) "eatin' ain't cheatin'.
Whatever the outcome, I wish them both well.