Sex Confession: My Husband Said Yes to Having an Open Marriage

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kiss couple"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Today's sex confession comes from Leslie* who has been married to Ryan* for eight years. She's a mom to two kids, is nearing 30, and just got the green-light to have extramarital affairs. Yes, Ryan is allowing his wife to be with other men. After Leslie brought up the idea of an open marriage, Ryan said yes. If you think Ryan is a pushover or weak or insane, think again. Here's a man who is willing to do whatever it takes to make his wife happy ... but his agreement to this is not without a few rules. Let's let Leslie tell you the rest.

I don't believe in monogamy, but I do believe in marriage. Being with other men or women was not something Ryan and I ever really discussed, but at this point in our marriage, something had to change or else our marriage would end. I found myself fantasizing too much -- imagining myself with other men. And I wanted to act on it. But I would never do so without permission from Ryan. What we have is too important to me and I didn't want to betray him or our trust. So after much internal dialogue, I finally talked to him about it.

I told him I wanted to have an open marriage. He could be with whoever he wanted, just as I could, and we would keep our love and home life out of it. It would just be sex, just fun outside of the house. He said he had no interest in being with anyone else. But he would think about my proposition. Ryan was great about the whole thing -- he didn't get angry or hurt or sad. It didn't affect his ego because he knew I loved him and was true to our promise that we would make our marriage work ... even if it was in non-traditional ways.

Weeks went by before we talked about it again. And when we did, he stayed firm that he still had no interest in being with anyone other than me, but he said I could ... just no sex. I could make out, even have oral sex, with others, but that's it. I was so excited by this that Ryan instantly became even more attractive to me than ever before. The fact that he was that secure in himself to allow me to fulfill these unconventional desires was a turn-on. And what ended up happening is he and I have been having sex more than ever. And it's better than ever.

I haven't used my open marriage pass yet, but I do like knowing I have it. It has made my marriage better.

What do you think of this confession? Would you ever be able to be in an open marriage situation?


*Names have been changed.


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momof... momof030404

Whatever floats your boat honey.....but you won't be staying married long. As long as you take this step knowing what you are going to give up great. Dont be all weepy when the sh%t hits the fan. He doesn't want to stray but you think he will REALLY be ok with you doing it? mmmkay. 

Ceilidh Lyn Simmons

As long as a couple approach this with responsibility and no one is forced what does it matter? Rules have to be set and followed this is not something that should be entered into lightly. Some people are just not monogamous  but does not mean they do not love their partners and want to remain married.

Sex is a very important part of well being what happens if your partners libido is different from yours? Yes there are ways to help but sometimes they only last so long which could lead to cheating. What two consenting adults do between the sheets is nobodies business.

bobek bobek

Should have asked this question before they got married, any time after that is just not fair to the husband.

hunil... hunilemonrose

I am trying to figure out what man is going to just give you head without wanting to have sex? Hell as a woman I want it all or nothing. Good luck

Jenei A Armstrong

Why even be married is my question. I am sorry, but obviously you don't value your marriage if you want to be with someone else and are okay with him being with someone else. It's very risky and I doubt this will end well. I think her husband is keeping mum about his true feelings, because no man in his right mind would be okay with his wife being intimate with someone else. I know my husband hates the thought of me having a sexual past before him, as do I. Although he's "okay" with it (whatever, I don't believe it) I still find it disrespectful to her husband. And how could she be mackin up and having oral sex with men and then kiss her children at night? EW. This is so wrong on so many levels in my eyes. Having a threesome is different and would make more sense if "spice" wanted to be added to the bedroom (although I could never do that personally either) but actually being sexual ALONE with someone else is basically cheating, doesn't matter if your partner is okay with it. That's just my personal opinion. 

Jazzi-Ray Carrier

I think It's greedy of this woman, there are obviously other Needs that are not being met. It's never OK to cheat, with or with out permission. If you can't keep your hands to yourself then together don't need to be married. Dating making out and oral will only fulfill you so long be a woman. Get a devorce, give soul custody of your children to the father. See them on weekends that way you are free to roam and fuck as you please and this man can find himself a wife who he is enough for and he alone.

Lotus... LotusMoonflower

As long as they are consenting adults, it's no one else's business. I sincerely wish them the best.

nonmember avatar Jac

Open marriages do not work PERIOD! My husband had an open marriage with his first wife and I was the "only sex" buddy...he fell in love with me and now we're married.... just sex doesn't work!

Trent... TrentonGirl

My husband and i are in an open marriage. Neither of us has done anything with anyone else but i have someone in mind ;)

nonmember avatar Sarah.S.

Or you could grow up and act like a married lady....

You decided to marry a man, whom you claim to love, but you lust after others? Doesn't sound like you love your husband much.

So you go out and find a guy who is interesting in only oral sex with you (good luck with that!) what do you do when he asks for more? What do you do if in a moment of madness you go all the way? Do you tell your husband? Do you pretend it never happened?

What happens if you discover that you have feelings for tgis guy? What happens if those feelings become stronger than the ones you have for your husband?

What do you do if you husband changes his mind?

You have just opened up you marriage to a very unstable atmosphere....I hope you are ready for the fall out!

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