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"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Today's sex confession comes from Leslie* who has been married to Ryan* for eight years. She's a mom to two kids, is nearing 30, and just got the green-light to have extramarital affairs. Yes, Ryan is allowing his wife to be with other men. After Leslie brought up the idea of an open marriage, Ryan said yes. If you think Ryan is a pushover or weak or insane, think again. Here's a man who is willing to do whatever it takes to make his wife happy ... but his agreement to this is not without a few rules. Let's let Leslie tell you the rest.
I don't believe in monogamy, but I do believe in marriage. Being with other men or women was not something Ryan and I ever really discussed, but at this point in our marriage, something had to change or else our marriage would end. I found myself fantasizing too much -- imagining myself with other men. And I wanted to act on it. But I would never do so without permission from Ryan. What we have is too important to me and I didn't want to betray him or our trust. So after much internal dialogue, I finally talked to him about it.
I told him I wanted to have an open marriage. He could be with whoever he wanted, just as I could, and we would keep our love and home life out of it. It would just be sex, just fun outside of the house. He said he had no interest in being with anyone else. But he would think about my proposition. Ryan was great about the whole thing -- he didn't get angry or hurt or sad. It didn't affect his ego because he knew I loved him and was true to our promise that we would make our marriage work ... even if it was in non-traditional ways.
Weeks went by before we talked about it again. And when we did, he stayed firm that he still had no interest in being with anyone other than me, but he said I could ... just no sex. I could make out, even have oral sex, with others, but that's it. I was so excited by this that Ryan instantly became even more attractive to me than ever before. The fact that he was that secure in himself to allow me to fulfill these unconventional desires was a turn-on. And what ended up happening is he and I have been having sex more than ever. And it's better than ever.
I haven't used my open marriage pass yet, but I do like knowing I have it. It has made my marriage better.
What do you think of this confession? Would you ever be able to be in an open marriage situation?
*Names have been changed.
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