10 Hints the Man of Your Dreams Sees You as Just a Friend

Love & Learn 6

There's this totally awesome guy you know and you really, REALLY dig him and you just know that you two would make the most perfect couple ever, if only...

The problem is, you're starting to suspect that he's digging you as just a friend or as "one of the guys," but you're just not sure. I mean, you'd make the most ADORABLE couple! But how do you know what he's thinking without just straight-up asking him? How do you know if he's into you, too, and feels that spark you feel - or if he looks at you and sees FRIEND all over your forehead?

Here are some signs that your crush (he's so perfect!) sees you as just a friend and not the woman of his dreams ...

1) He has all sorts of pet names for you - but they're the wrong kind. They're not "baby doll," or "sweetheart," no. They're "dude," "yo," "bro," or "(your last name)."

2) He rarely calls or texts you first - you're doing the heavy lifting for the friendship. He'll respond if you get in touch, but he doesn't call "just because."

3) He doesn't flirt with you when you're out - unless you're standing by your best friend.

4) He tells you about this chick he's totally digging - and it's not because he wants you to feel jealous.

5) He'll swing by your place... to borrow your Prison Break DVDs and a couple of sodas.

6) When you're out alone, he spends half the time texting other people. A lot of them are other women.

7) When you're out together without his buddies, he's always got to go home by a specific time, even though you KNOW there's nothing going on at home.

8) He only commits to hanging out sometimes - he doesn't seem to have a burning desire to see you.

9) You're always out with him and the guys. In fact, you've actually earned yourself the nickname "dude with boobs."

10) When he sees other guys hitting on you, he gives you a high five rather than a jealous stare.

Have you ever been in this situation - what did you do?


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jessi... jessicasmom1

oh he is more than a friend , he is first to hold my hand, now moving right down the street from me a few doors down

nonmember avatar qrawd

You forgot the main one: he hasn't asked you out on a date! :)

nonmember avatar Gina

Your list is spot on but my entire business is based on Hint #2 He rarely calls or texts you first. I tell my clients this is one of the first ways of telling if he has any romantic interests in you.

Kediset Kediset

with #1... what if it was something like 'dragon eye'? I think I translated it correctly but I'm afraid to ask one of our mutual friends what it means (for confirmation). Hate to think I have it wrong ;o

#2 -sniff- he's in another country... never says hi over IM =.= which is weird cause there was one time where we did have a bit of a chat, but then that died out. He tried to connect with me more (language barrier) when I was over there. For all I know, maybe he's waiting for me to talk more in person before he's willing to talk more over the web. Or maybe he's waiting for me to learn at least some of his language and speak it before he'll respond. His reply to a comment I made on a picture he posted was in Chinese telling me to speak Chinese. Sheesh. I don't know how to write in ping ying to type out the characters on the computer...

nonmember avatar elspeth

He can't use his cell at work when you talk to him but needs to carry it at all times. He answers everybody who texts him while out with you but doesn't answer your text.

nonmember avatar erin

The guy described in this article sounds more like an asshole then a friend.

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